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<p>Because you think you’re completely stupid. No one but yourself can convince you otherwise. So reject that notion, or embrace it. Either way, you’re going to have to go on with your life.</p>
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<p>That’s because you’re looking for external acknowledgment of your worth. It will never come. Nothing you do will ever be good enough if you let other people judge you because there is always something better to be won.</p>
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<p>Yes.</p>
<p>If you’re not comfortable disclosing which schools you will be transferring/applying from and to, how are we supposed to help you??</p>
<p>There are so many great schools out there. If you thought you had some chance at the Ivies, I’m sure you got accepted to some other great places…choose one of those. It’s silly to hang your entire self-worth on being accepted to an Ivy league school. Average would mean that you are at the 50th percentile, which I doubt you are. So, don’t underrate yourself based on such a superficiality.</p>
<p>The thought has already crossed my mind that I only got into the schools I got into because of class rank or some other numerical value that has nothing to do with who I am (forgive the phrase).</p>
<p>So you believe that the tiny fraction of students attending Ivies is the best and brightest, and then there is everybody else suffering through their average lives? Do you understand statistics? Space availability? Safety and match schools? Did you have one?</p>
<p>“I have considered taking a gap year and reapplying to schools and maybe applying to some new ones… bad idea?”</p>
<p>I saw someone do this on CC a couple of years ago. He applied EA to one school that rejected him. He was deferred and then rejected by it. He also was rejected again by the other schools that he reapplied to.</p>
<p>It’s smarter to go to whatever school that accepted you, do the best that you can, and then either transfer to a better school or set your sites on going to a better school for graduate or professional school.</p>
<p>I’m not going to argue that you aren’t really average. Because the fact is, it doesn’t really matter.</p>
<p>Maybe this is a good learning experience for you. Because the fact is, the vast majority of people cannot be on top. If you’re going to be crushed whenever you are not THE best at what you do, you will have a terrible life.</p>
<p>Why do anything at all if you can’t be the best at it?</p>
<p>I don’t really think it’s enough to “enjoy something”. Where does that get you? It just makes you more “average” if you do everything for the sake of enjoyment and nothing else.</p>
<p>And no… I didn’t have a safety school. Like I said, I’m an idiot.</p>
<p>then i guess you were tying to be perfect, which to my recollection, no one is</p>
<p>but like i said before go to the school that accepted you and transfer in the later years</p>
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<p>Because you cannot be the best at everything you do. If your self-worth is as deeply tied to being the best as it seems, then you have a serious problem. Seriously, if you think you have to be the best at everything you do, you need help.</p>
<p>If you’re truly serious about “fixing” this, and you would still prefer to attend a top university, go to a comm. college and excel. You can be the top of your class there, and after that, you can transfer to almost anywhere. Easily a top 50 university - pending you have a 3.8+ and strong EC’s/essays.</p>
<p>Not everything. Just something… But there’s nothing. How is that okay? How is anyone okay with that?</p>
<p>For me, mediocrity is unacceptable.</p>
<p>“Why do anything at all if you can’t be the best at it?”</p>
<p>If this is your attitude,you’ll always be miserable because as is the case with virtually everyone, you probably aren’t going to be able to be the best at anything. if you do manage to be the best, that will be temporary because that’s life.</p>
<p>You can choose to do things because they are fun or interesting. You can choose to challenge yourself to be the best that you are capable of being. These are goals that are realistic. What you’re clinging to now is an impossibility and is something that is destined to mean you’ll always feel defeated and like a loser.</p>
<p>You’re seeing the world in black and white terms. There are many shades of gray.</p>
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<p>I actually generally feel the same way. Yet somehow I manage not to feel bad for myself 24/7 and I am able to function in the world. You are an infant in an 18-year-old’s body. If the Ivies picked up on your personality, I have a pretty good idea of why you were swept with rejections.</p>
<p>I take it you’re not religious, because if you were, you would think that ultimately all this is irrelevant. So I pose the question to you: what does it really matter if you’re the best at something? It’s all done after you’re dead. There is no point in being the best at anything because your life ultimately has no meaning postmortum. Why bother doing anything at all?</p>
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<p>Nothing gets you anywhere. Your life seems to have no meaning now, nor would it had you gotten into the Ivy League.</p>
<p>The rejections are simply catalysts for the vocalization of a mentality that is deeply flawed.</p>
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<p>Clearly, you think you are. So accept it and move on. Or don’t, and torture yourself forever. Again, make the decision yourself and stop wasting our time with problems only you can fix.</p>
<p>There are 15.9 million high school students in the US. Of those students, no more than 50,000 will go to an Ivy League school. So 99.7 percent of US students have to be okay with not getting into an Ivy League.</p>
<p>If you cannot cope with not being in the top 0.3%, you need help. That’s not “being motivated” or “refusing to accept mediocrity”; that’s just DUMB.</p>
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<p>If you really had gotten accepted to a top school, I would feel really sorry for you right now, with that type of mentality. There will always be people better than you, especially at top schools where you could study until your brains fall out, and the guy next to you does no homework but aces everything.</p>
<p>Honestly, what was your point in creating this thread? You don’t seem to be digesting or listening to anything we are explaining or suggesting to you. Do you want to hear A. Oh… I feel so sorry for you, don’t worry you’ll get over this bump in this road or B. Yes, you’re average, you’ll never amount to anything, and since you didn’t attend an ivy, every door will be closed on you.</p>
<p>I thought I was pretty clear. I just wanted to know what I should do now.</p>
<p>I know how dramatic it sounds, but it’s the best way I know to articulate it… the idea of “settling” for a “regular” school makes me feel ill. Maybe that’s just a normal (or since apparently I’m both dumb and need psychological help, not so normal) visceral response, but I really feel like I’m not okay with it… which is why I asked about reapplying after taking a year off. But I guess Northstarmom did make a good point… since it’s highly probable that I’d just get rejected again…</p>
<p>since my personality is so flawed…</p>
<p>heh.</p>
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<p>It’s pretty easy. Here’s a list:</p>
<p>1) Select one of the schools that accepted you
2) Go to it</p>
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<p>Then feel ill. But do so at one of the “regular” schools.</p>
<p>I don’t understand why you aren’t getting it.</p>
<p>Well, I think you got an answer to that, twice: go to a ‘regular’ school and then transfer if you really think the place isn’t good enough for you.</p>
<p>which “good” schools did you get accepted to, if you don’t mind revealing that?</p>
<p>you’ll be alright, go to school for a year, get good grades and transfer
and then you will be looking back at this thread and just lol’ing</p>