Can't pay for college - HELP!

Paying for College
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<p>OMG I'm in so much trouble. I promised myself I could pay for Oklahoma University but it's looking like that's SO impossible! I am a high school senior who graduated a few weeks ago and I have always wanted to go to OU so bad!!! So, like, I didn't get any scholarship money because my SAT scores were too low or something (1180/2400), so I was forced to come up with the money some other way. So I've been looking for jobs for the last two months.</p>

<p>I have had three jobs in the last two months, and at all three of them I have been fired on the first day!!!<br>
The third one was this past weekend and I can't believe I blew it again!</p>

<p>The first one I tried to do was being a server at The Cheesecake Factory back in the beginning of March. I got fired because I got into a fight with my first customer because she was being really mean to me! Ugh! My boss gave me a warning about it, but then I accidentally dropped an entire tray of food (it had like 4 plates of food on it) in the middle of the lobby a couple hours later. My manager let that slide too, but they were more stern with that one. Then an hour after that, I got in trouble because I got annoyed with the host because she gave me too many tables!!! Like umm... hello! It's my first day, I cannot handle three tables all at once! Anyways, she got mad at me so then the server called ME to the office and fired me right then and there!!! That last one wasn't even my fault!! The host girl didn't even get in trouble!!</p>

<p>I brushed that one off because all my friends were like "well serving is reallyyyy hard, so don't be embarrassed". So I was like yeah whatever. </p>

<p>Then like a month ago, I got fired on my first day at Safeway grocery store. I was in an awful mood because my boyfriend broke up with me the night before, so obviously i was super emotional and like not at a good place in my life. Two hours into my first shift, a customer complained that my line was moving too slow and obviously I was overwhelmed so I told the customer to chill the hell out and wait their turn. The customer got mad and started arguing with me so I broke down and started crying and yelled "THEN GO IN ANOTHER F**KING LINE!!!" and then all the customers started yelling at me!! Then my manager called me to his office and he fired me!!! I had only been working there for 2 hours!!!</p>

<p>I started freaking out a little because this was the second one where I got fired on my first day. But now I'm sooooo emotional and freaking out because last Saturday I got fired from MY THIRD JOB ON THE FIRST DAY!!!</p>

<p>So like I started working at the movie theater, century theaters. This was like totally unfair because it's a saturday and obviously thats a really busy day and they should not start me on a busy day like that. But like my trainer was SUPER annoying because she was like showing me literally everything and she said to shadow her and I was like "Uh, okay do you think I'm retarded or something? I can do this..." and gave her attitude. Like who does she think she is? WTF she's not the manager and she was talking to me like I didn't know anything and was like trying to show me everything! So after that SHE started being kind of rude to me!But was like really passive aggressive about it...</p>

<p>Then when it started getting busy like an hour later, she left me by myself handling the popcorn!! I was like, "Um... hello?! Where are you going??? And she was like I'm going to the bathroom for a few minutes, but since you know everything you can handle it and she rolled her eyes and left!!! WTF?! seriously?? So this fat customer wanted all this popcorn and he was like barking orders at me and I snapped and was like "Obviously I'm alone, so be PATIENT!" and he got mad and asked to talk to the manager!! He and the manager talked for a few minutes and the manager came over and was like, "You can't talk to customers like that, but this is a warning."</p>

<p>So they switched me from concessions to the box office and said maybe concessions wasn't for me, try the box office. So i started working at the box office, but that was even worse!! EVERYONE wanted to see the freakin' Godzilla movie and it was so overwhelming so I told a couple of them that it was sold out when it actually wasn't. I was just way toooooo overwhelmed and I thought maybe the concessions people would get overwhelmed too so I did my best to turn some people away or get them a later showing when I was off and wasn't working. This ***** WORKING NEXT TO ME overheard, and instead of asking WHY I was turning people away, she went STRAIGHT to my trainer who already hated me and then she went to the manager!! </p>

<p>Then the manager basically was really rude and said I was fired!! I had only worked there for 3 hours!! I cried and I begged him for a second chance but he was like "I don't think you are a good fit here, if I'm being honest. But don't worry, you will get paid for the 3 hours you worked though and you can pick up that check in 2 days. Good luck".....WTF?? I got home that night and cried my eyes out. Still tonight as I'm writing this, I'm crying my eyes out! This is the third one in a row!! I can't believe this happened again. Like what am i gonna do for money?! Am I being punk'd?! Like wtf seriously. I am freaking out. What is wrong with me?? Why can't I freakin hold a job longer than a single f**king day?? Maybe I'm just picking all of the wrong ones, right? Because at every single one of them, my coworkers and managers have all been really mean. </p>

<p>I also don't know what I'm gonna tell all of my friends! I've already bought lots of OU apparel and told all my friends, family, and teachers that I definitely will be there in the fall! My parents even bought all my books already! I'm just sooo embarrassed and don't know how I'm going to get so much money in the next two months. What am I gonna do? What should I do? HELP!</p>

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<p>@bbycakez</p>

<p>are you for real or is this a joke. </p>

<p>I think instead of going to college you need to see a therapist.</p>

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<p>I’m going to work off the assumption that this is a real post.</p>

<p>A poster in this situation has (at least) two problems that I can see: unclear arrangements to pay college costs, and a huge attitude issue. The first is more easily solved than the second. </p>

<p>If the parents can’t pay for the kid’s first choice school and there isn’t enough financial aid (grants, work $, and minimal loans) to cover the full COA, then the student needs to find a cheaper school. </p>

<p>When you have to work for living, you have to be mature enough to deal with people on a rational level. It’s generally in people’s best interest to be civil to others even if you don’t have to work for a living. I know it’s a shock for some young people to learn, but employers, college professors, and coworkers/college peers aren’t going to care about most personal issues you’re experiencing. Extreme hardship, yes. Fallout from a break up, no. They expect you to show up prepared to do whatever job is required, to get along with those around you, and get the job done. Listen more than you speak, opt for kindness over obnoxiousness when you do speak, and find ways to make yourself useful. </p>

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<p>Real? It seems so over the top, but here goes. . .</p>

<p>You have just learned that your employer does not care about your personal life. At all. Show up, put on a smile, and do your job courteously, no matter how obnoxious you think your customers and coworkers are. You have learned that your bosses are not like your teachers, in that they do not have to (and will not) put up with attitude. You have learned that if you do not display a certain level of competence right away, you will not be allowed to continue. Yes, serving is hard, but 3 tables is about 1/2 the usual section size. You have also learned that you should not work with the public. So, now what you do with this knowledge is really up to you. You can continue to blame unfair,mean managers and coworkers and rude customers, or you can ask yourself what you can do differently in order to stay employed.</p>

<p>College? That’s simple. Defer admission for a year or start at a community college. I’d recommend the cc. Since you didn’t get any aid at the university, getting an associates and then transferring would save you a bucket of money. </p>

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<p>Ladies and Gentlemen…Bon Qui Qui is in the CC House!</p>

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<p>Oh for heavens sake. </p>

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<p>MDNOMAN
New Member</p>

<p>bbycakez
New Member</p>

<p>Take your choice here. I don’t believe either of theses two are for real.</p>

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<p>^^^ That’s what I’m thinking. The writing reminds me of another post I suspect is a ■■■■■ (the abundance of “like” several times in a sentence for one). Like, I’m going to ignore this.</p>

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<p>Just an FYI to the OP. Even if you had worked full time at a minimum wage job all summer, you would not have earned enough to pay the full cost of attending Oklahoma University.</p>

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<p>@MDNOMAN omg I totally can’t understand anything you wrote! It’s like you didn’t even read my post!</p>

<p>and @BTMell‌ @thumper1‌ you guys just are so mean! I am totally for real! ugh! what am i going to do?! I’m so screwed I’m so screwed I’m so SCREWED!!! How did my life come to this? I never saw my life going anywhere near this nightmare! </p>

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<p>I read it as the joke of the day.</p>

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<p>@bbycakez‌ </p>

<p>OK…you seem to be out-of-step with reality (if you are real). Your behavior at those 3 jobs was deplorable, and all of it screams that you are completely unaware of the role of an employee which deals with the public. You become the face of the company. If you behave poorly, people wont return and the company starts losing money quickly.</p>

<p>You were the “common denominator” to all of these problems. They werent the result of bad luck, an act of God, or anything. I don’t know what kind of K-12 schools you attended, but I suspect that they were ones where students were allowed to “mouth off,” “be dramatic,” and “have an attitude”.</p>

<p>WHAT was your plan on how to pay for college? Certainly working at these jobs wouldnt have paid the costs. When you made that (naive) promise to yourself, what was the plan?</p>

<p>Seriously, you need professional help because your story suggests a future of life-long HUGE problems in the work-world. I am not kidding. </p>

<p>I suggest you watch the video that I posted above…Anjelah Johnson may be using your story in a future routine.</p>

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<p>Bby…if you are for real, read my last post again! How much did you think you could earn in a summer? Definitely NOT enough to pay the full cost of attending OU.</p>

<p>You are eligible for a $5500 Direct Loan. If you live at home, and commute to a community college, you should be able to pay the tuition bill at that CC.</p>

<p>In the meantime…listen to ordinary upstream. If you get another job, just DO the job. Keep your personal issues away from the workplace. It’s a life skill you will need to use for,the rest of your life.</p>

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<p>Agreeing with Mom2. I don’t mean to be unkind but can’t believe that one person would lose three jobs and not understand that their underlying behavior is the issue - because it is. I employ student workers and while I need technical skills as part of, people skills are as important if not more so. I hope you have someone you can talk to.</p>

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<p>School is out for many kiddies, and it’s time to play…CC can be ■■■■■ Summer Camp!</p>

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<p>Now that i have re-read this, it is sounding even more unbelievable. would parents really buy all your books when certainly THEY would know that you have no money for college?</p>

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<p>You have two issues going on here., OP. One: You need money to go to college. Assuming you have been accepted, you must have SOME funds to got there as a teenager, especially one who has little or no work experience prior to this year, is not likely to be able to fund all that it takes to go to OU. Are you commuting to the school? How much do you need to go there for the year? How much are your parents paying? How much do you have set aside to go there this first year, and what is the gap? Are you getting any financial aid? Did you and your parents fill out FAFSA? Are you taking out loans as of this point–are they already in consideration as to what you are going to pay? </p>

<p>When you can give us some more information, other than “Can’t pay for college”, perhaps we can help you, or direct you to affordable options or give you some direction as to what you can do to get some affordable options.</p>

<p>The second issue has to do with you problems with your jobs. That seems to be the main focus of your posts. Clearly, you need some help, guidance, advice in terms of how to behave,not to behave, how to act on the job. Have you ever worked before? Yes, it’s difficult doing a job. Very much so. And these days, it’s hard to hold on to one or get the hours even to make full time wages. YOu need to talk to your parents, or other adult that can guide you in job behaviors and help you find another job. This is not the board that goes into the issues you have in this area. </p>

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Yes OP should ask his/her friends, family, & teachers for help.

You have the classes scheduled for the Fall?</p>