<p>I have a hard time believing that this video isn’t just for yourself given that you wouldn’t show it if you got accepted to Harvard.</p>
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so why do you care if the bully has all those things?</p>
<p>OK this is ridiculous. Yes, you will be the better person for not uploading the video. No one is saying do nothing, we said show the video to parents/GC/principal. </p>
<p>I was bullied a couple times in 6th and 7th, and I basically ignored it. Because I wasn’t going to humor them by saying anything to them or anything. Probably a bad idea, I could’ve gotten them in trouble, but I don’t care. I have the satisfaction that they will probably get nowhere in life (very true for at least one person, they won’t make it out of the county ever, probably the same for the other person too). </p>
<p>I’m done here, if you want to upload it, OK, fine, it’s your life, I’m not going to stop you, but I know it is a bad idea, and you might even regret it later in life. Vengeance is not good, and you’re almost as bad as the bully since you just want to spite him. I don’t look very highly upon revenge in the kind you’re thinking of.
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<p>If this was really about showing people about bullies, you’d do it anyhow, not on this condition. This, CC, shows that the OP is wanting vengeance, not justice. I’m telling you, in 20 years, YOU WILL NOT CARE. </p>
<p>“Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.”</p>
<p>Personally I been bullied in 8th/9th but this guy is different… Like he does this bullying but the way he does it made it seem tame. Also he’s always in trouble so it wouldn’t matter what we do teachers will give him detentions and all lmao. I now see him as a friend not a bully or rival of sort. </p>
<p>The thing is you want this to stop but at the same time you want further revenge which in turn would make u no better then the bully himself. As noted there is plenty explanation for bullying. Chances are if u two have a long history, you will meet again… Trust me fate always find a way and when you do you will see each other in a different light. </p>
<p>Show the video to parents and school board. Threatens to take this to CNN, I’m sure a news scoop on bullying would gain plenty of momentum, and meanwhile gather friends to help u stop this bully personally.</p>
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<p>This guy is going to Harvard. He’ll probably be successful too, and at class reunions he won’t even remember it because it wasn’t as big a deal to him as it was to his victims. </p>
<p>I’m sort of bothered that a lot of people on here think ignoring bullies or reporting them to authorities who don’t give a damn will actually do anything to stop the problem.
It’s difficult to ignore or not react to physical harm, and the idea that if you can’t physically fight back you must deserve it is absurd. (I’m not against hitting people who hit you first, within reason, but eventually there’s going to be someone you can’t win a fight with, and the bullying is going to continue.)</p>
<p>I feel like the best way to stop most bullying is geographic distancing, though if there’s something about you that makes you an easy target (typically, deviating from the norm in any way) it might happen again. If I were in this situation, I’d probably do my best to avoid him as much as possible and be happy that he’ll be going away to Harvard in less than a year because at least I’m not going anywhere near there and I’ll probably never see him again.</p>
<p>I don’t think that it’s necessarily a bad idea, but do you really think a student made video will stop him getting into Harvard? Also this seems to be your main intention, not making him stop/pay/make the school aware.</p>
<p>That vid may not stop him from going to H as horrid as that sounds.</p>
<p>“but do you really think a student made video will stop him getting into Harvard?”</p>
<p>I honestly don’t know. Would it? Because apparently colleges can rescind your admission if they see you smoking weed on Facebook and that seems less bad than bullying people.</p>
<p>True, but would they even hear about it?</p>
<p>They could if someone told them about it.</p>
<p>I kind of like the idea to get him in trouble or to stop his bullying. Not necessarily to keep him from Harvard. </p>
<p>I don’t think Harvard would want a student that they knew was a school bully. They could easily take a person with the same or better stats who is actually nice. </p>
<p>“He’s a school bully. But his academics, ECs, and awards are great! We will take him!”</p>
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<p>As for me, I’ve been bullied on a “low level.” Some kid takes my pencil and breaks it, but nothing more serious than that. Just annoying things.</p>
<p>Why not plan a meeting with the counselor, principal, his parents and maybe a few school police officers and show them the video? If they don’t do anything about it then take it a step further to some higher authority figures. A lot of people say bullying is a bad thing and that we have to stop it blah blah blah but a lot of times we don’t do anything about it. I’m not trying to say that you should go with your plan and just ruin him like that but maybe try another solution like the one I gave. </p>
<p>Don’t forget about karma though…atleast if you believe in it.</p>
<p>If he bullies everyone, and everyone agrees he’s such a jerk, what will the video do? Expose him? Doesn’t sound like much of a secret…?</p>
<p>Except outside group will look into it. The school won’t care until media attention is brought in. </p>
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<p>Great post Descuff.</p>
<p>The OP should first try talking to the school about it (but we all know they won’t do anything) and if that doesn’t work, take it to the police. You have evidence. </p>
<p>I just don’t think you should try to ruin him by making the video viral.</p>
<p>I think that people should stand up to bullies. But, I think the OPer’s suggestion is going to far. But, it sucks when people like that are successful, but that should fuel your fire to become successful too (perhaps even more so). Stick it to people by being good at what you do!</p>
<p>None of you feel my pain. I’ve just moved to my school, no friends, just a bully. I don’t sleep at night thinking about what he will do to me. I’m afraid of going to school and my club meetings, my grades dropped and I got two B’s cause when I should have been studying I couldn’t stop thinking about what he will do to me. I can’t turn to a staff member cause they won’t do anything. I can’t group up a lot of people, cause he bullies me the most, he is just mean to everyone else. </p>
<p>I can’t stress enough on how the adiminstration will do absolutely nothing to help me other than make me “talk with him” and work it out. He won’t get any punishment that will make him stop. You may say all I want is bitter revenge, but I want Justice, wheter or not I have to carry it out, or someone else does.</p>
<p>Go to the police. Tell your parents, if they agree with you that it’s that bad then they can call a lawyer or something. You have the evidence all ready. Bullying is harrassment. </p>
<p>Not trying to sound all relatable(?) or anything but I had a situation similiar to yours. I even use to skip school because of it and I would loose my appetite sometimes.</p>
<p>My parents will kill me if they find out I’m getting bullied. You guys may not understand, but Korean parents love to yell at their kids for any reason they can find. If I tell a staff member they will tell my parents, and from then on all my parents will ever say is how weak I am, and how disgraceful I am to my family.</p>
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<p>Hopefully, next year you’ll be done with the bully next year. You’ll forget about it someday. I was bullied in seventh grade by older kids at school. MY grades went down. My friends advised me to go to the guidance counsler. Regardless, they were gone the next year. I was happy and found my spirit lifted by the end of eighth grade. One is now in one of my classes (I’m in eleventh grade), he doesn’t remember me. You make it sound like you have nothing to lose, but remember that you have your whole future and though you may not be happy right now, it is all about the pursuit of happiness. You have to make sure (regardless of this bully’s future) that YOU are happy.</p>
<p>Ultimately, this is YOUR decision. I don’t know why you are asking the question if you’re going to complain about the answers. Clearly, you’re adamant in what you want to do since you either complain about or ignore the answers. If you want to do it, do it. You asked about it, so we answered. If you don’t want answers, don’t ask a question.</p>
<p>I’m sorry you are being bullied. I’m sure it sucks seeing this kid with a bright future lined up for him. If you think the video is the only solution, do it. You were given many other options, though.</p>
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Why do his thoughts on the matter actually matter? S/he’s not going to gain success just to spite this guy; s/he’s going to be successful regardless, I’m sure, and the fact that s/he gained success is HIS/HER OWN triumph against the bully. Will the bully care? You guys don’t seem to think so (I think so), but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that the victim came out strong after being bullied. </p>
<p>The mindset all of you have is probably why bullying is such a problem for you; you all seem to care too much about what the bully thinks! Clearly, you’re all better than the bully. Clearly, the bully is a low-life who needs to make others feel low in order to feel good about himself… SO WHY DOES HIS OPINION MATTER? If he doesn’t like you and bullies you/calls you name/whatever he does, WHY DOES IT MATTER? YOU’RE BETTER THAN HIM. Why should his opinion mean more to you than your own?</p>