<p>as a student who has seen my friends pull the same kind of manipulative bull that your daughter is, i suggest you get rid of the cell phone and cut her off. i have a friend who is studying abroad (and has also been all over the world before then at her mom's expense) and routinely asks her mom to wire hundreds of dollars for whatever she wants (skydiving, swimming with dolphins, hotel stays, etc.) and she is really spoiled. it's wrong. i would never ever even ask my mom for that much money-- it's enough that she's paying for my college and my apartment. i work (which your daughter should do too, even if she is abroad, can she get a job working at the school or anything like that?) and i never ask my mom for any additional money. i'm positive your daughter wrote you that nasty email for the pure reason of making you feel guilty for cutting off her phone service, which was the right decision and you should by no means regret it. however, if you do make her come home, it might be a lot harder to get her to forget the grudge. also, she needs money to spend on her birthday? for what??? to be honest, what most spoiled college kids spend money on is drugs and alcohol. i don't want to imply anything about your daughter, obviously i don't know her, but this is what kids i know would be doing. she is trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty by withholding phone calls and sending you mean emails, crying over money for her birthday, etc. she's gotten used to being spoiled and now she feels she has to punish you if you don't continue giving her what she wants. cut her off before it's too late. she needs to learn some independence.</p>