<p>Kids are resourceful. If you cut her phone off, she'll work out a deal with a friend and use theirs...which she'll have to reimburse them for. Hey, maybe that is what is happening with YOUR bill....someone else is using her phone (and you are paying for their calls). I would let her use her resources to figure out how to connect with the boyfriend, etc.</p>
<p>If you continue to try to force her to call you, she'll just resist more. Although you want to talk to her several times a week, I don't think it's reasonable to try to make her call you if she doesn't want to. What's the point in forcing someone to talk to you when they don't want to? </p>
<p>She'll figure out how to happily survive on less once you force her to do so. </p>
<p>I bet you're footing the bill for several kids whose parents have already cut them off. </p>
<p>Stop waiting for her to call. Use your newly found spending money and go on vacation. Your D will be fine.</p>