<p>Is she studying this summer? Is she just traveling around? </p>
<p>She is seeing a therapist, so there are some other issues here. </p>
<p>Something to think about, and I don't know the details, but, could daughter be using her past issues that required the start of the therapy to make you feel guilty (or for you feeling guilty all on your own) and perhaps talking advantage of the situation?</p>
<p>Has the therapy helped? Has she managed to take care of herself well enough to live abroad? And do you see that she can make decisions for her life, or is this year abroad, especially this summer, a way of avoiding that- really taking care of herself and being responsible? If the therapy did indeed help, then she should be showing you more respect, because she will see she is part of a bigger world. If it didn't does this summer abroad really make sense?</p>
<p>Sure, she feels bad about the phone bill. It caused her some problems. But she doesn't feel bad enough or learned enough to realize she has cause you some problems. And she continues to hurt you.</p>
<p>I have a friend whose daughter is in therapy. The mom is always torn between "wow I am sooo glad D is doing such fun things and acting normally" to "Um, why isn't she following my rules and why is she taking advantage of us"</p>
<p>And, Mom was afraid to cause a stink because she feels a bit responsible that child is in therapy, even though Mom is a great mom, because she felt she must have done something wrong and doesn't want D mad at her. D knows this, and for awhile was indeed taking advantage. The Mom knew it wasn't doing daughter any good to not have her be responsible and show respect for the family.</p>
<p>Just some thoughts.</p>