<p>jmmom,
Maybe the fact that there is now a "long waiting game" will actually prove beneficial in this case. Your DS needs some time to settle in and settle down, albeit perhaps temporarily. Having several more months to investigate his options may be an unanticipated side-benefit to the "waiting game." Good luck to your entire family no matter what the decision. Your grace and diginity in the face of so much upheaval has been a joy to observe in cyberspace.</p>