<p>So.. my entire mom's side lives in California. Aunt in San Clemente; cousins in Laguna. I have always wanted to move out there with them.. since my freshman year of highschool. They told me that if I went there for college, I could live with them and they would help me out. Well, my parents did not agree. I respected their wishes and moved to Chicago for school.. 5 hours away from home.. same state. They didn't even want me moving here because of the distance, the big bad city.. and whatever reasons they had up their sleeves. The school I attend how is a private school, that cost about $30,000 a year.. luckily for me I got scholarships, grants, award money, etc and only pay $12,000. I am paying for college and my off-campus apartment through loans in my name.. meaning, once I graduate I am the one paying them off.. not them. I love Chicago, but California is where I have wanted to be and still want to be. Lately, it's all I can think of. I tried to talk to them, sent them information on schools, living, etc. They wont even listen to where I am coming from. It's just a straight "No, you're making me upset, I'm hanging up the phone." I do respect my parents, but they are not being reasonable. I have tried to prove to them by doing very well in school, staying active, and being responsible with my money. Now, I am losing hope. Does anyone have any ideas on what else I can do? I don't want to take this major move by myself, but I can't get anything out of them rather than the answer no.</p>
<p>If you went to college in California your costs would be a lot more than 12K per year - are you certain you can afford it on your own as an OOS student?</p>
<p>Why not just go to CA after you graduate college - for work or for grad school? You say you love Chicago, so you are doing fine where you are. In the meantime, time take a pleasure trip or two to California to A) keep relationships with your relatives strong B) scout out <em>grad</em> school and work opportunities C) enjoy CA just for fun.</p>
<p>Since your parents are against this move, you might as well wait until you are ready and able to do the move on your own. After graduation seems like good timing.</p>
<p>Yes, but the situtation is becoming unbearable. I miss my family in California. And that is where I want to be… have since I can remember. I’ve tried to think of alternatives and nothing is appealing. Thanks for your advice.</p>
<p>Hey, you’re an adult now. If attending university in California is your dream, then I say go for it.</p>