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was thinking like medical, money paid outside of child support,
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Are these kids included in your H’s family plan insurance? If so, isn’t the cost the same with or without them? If you’re talking about shared expenses…like shared ortho expenses, that is part of what is done as parents. Unless the medical expenses are unusually high outside of insurance, no consideration is given…for instance, if one of the kids had $25k in uncovered medical and your H had to pay half, that might get a very small consideration, but not a whole lot.
the extra stuff that parents choose to do for their kids (soccer fees, dance lessons, etc) are purely choice…so no consideration is given. Schools aren’t going to give more aid so that parents can give more to their kids.