<p>Just want to encourage all of you who have come from a broken home. You are all amazing in how strong you are. Keep on being wonderful. For that parent who physically or emotionally left you, that may be a huge blessing. Of course, the pain of not having them nurture you is off the charts. Keep pursuing your dreams and be sure to glean only the good from the abandoning parent and then to build a foundation that is tried and true. Be the amazing person your parent chose not to be, particularly toward your own children, should you have them. I believe God gives all of us a chance to experience the love we should have received by giving it to our own kids one day.</p>
<p>meh. parents divorced when i was 7. dad remarried an emotionally abusive woman. they divorced…he is getting married again i think soon. mom remarried a physically abusive man that threatened to kill us. left him. married a cool guy but she thinks hes old before his time…they’ve been together for like 10 years but they are breaking up now actually. we are trying to find somewhere to live soon. sucks because we are poor and usually living with just my mom/brother = living in a tiny cramped place. like literally i spend freshman year in a camper trailer with no door on the bathroom. we had a curtain. my brother and i slept on a couch that pulled out into a bed that had holes in it. was ballin’</p>
<p>My parents’ temporary separation (they’re back together now :)) did me a big favour actually. I was forced to move away and live with my grandparents and extended family and it really brought me out of my shell, taught me how to interact with people and make friends. I became a lot stronger because of it as well. I also got a lot of exposure to my culture and a different way of life. And they all gave me a lot of love so I feel really blessed. Now my parents live together again and its another learning experience so I gess it’s all worked out for the best in my case.</p>
<p>TrueLove, that was very kind. Thank you.</p>
<p>My parents are divorced lol I like them better that way since I can’t ever remember them honestly getting along. I could write a book on how fickle& crazy my family is but I won’t do that to myself or them…it would be a sick book though lmao</p>
<p>@Hi<em>im</em>leila, you’re welcome. I have so many friends who are barely surviving the constant battle and pain of divorce. It is heart wrenching. It brings me tears when reading these posts of you guys. All of you are so remarkably positive and resilient. You’re inspiring to me.</p>
<p>divorced…because it was an arranged marriage</p>
<p>My parents never got married because my mom had me when she was 17. My mom’s still pretty cool, like a big sis. But it’s so weird because I feel so awkward around my dad! Like I act really shy and quiet around him and not myself. I don’t think that problem will ever be fixed because I just don’t know how to open up to him…</p>
<p>“Linguistics. Whenever I say MIT, I get “So, what sort of engineer do you want to be?” And when I say “Linguistics!” well, I just get blank stares T_T.”</p>
<p><em>stares blankly at computer screen</em></p>
<p>Is MIT especially good for Linguistics or something? Why MIT?</p>
<p>^ i heard UPenn was good for linguistics, never heard anything about MIT and linguistics</p>
<p>Sofaraway, that definitely makes sense about how you feel about him. It may be that that piece of your life may never be complete. But, you can still feel complete without that person making a solid connection with you, I bet. Now, if he were completely connected to you, then pulled away, that would be a killer. You are complete without him, definitely.</p>
<p>^^/^^^ It’s not “especially good” in comparison to what were my other two tops in my last two weeks of consideration, because they are all awesome. On account of Noam Chomsky’s work there, it has a bit more of a name than some of the others (though that’s faded somewhat during his retirement). </p>
<p>I feel like I’m hijacking threads. Time to watch more Kdrama.</p>
<p>Parents divorce when I was 8. Umm, every two weeks my younger brother and I would go to the other parent’s house (or apartment in my mom’s case). When I was at my mom’s I would pretty much have to fend for myself…waking up, making breakfast, and making sure she got up to take me to school, homework, etc. Time goes on…parents are supposed to pay 50/50, but of course my mom jips my dad and starts not paying. eventually loses the apartment. She lives somewhere nearbyish, but I don’t know the exact address even though we see her sometimes. I live at my dad’s full time (obviously). He’s pretty cool though :). Fought hard as nails for full custody (banishing divorced/single parent assumptions FTW, haha) of my brother and I. I know it’s a struggle for him to pay bills and such, especially with one income that’s about half of what it used to be :/. But somehow, it’s working. And I’m doing well in school, so things aren’t so bad :).</p>
<p>Interesting though, because I have two different groups of best friends, and one group has all divorced/single parent families, while in the other one, they’re all married. Hmm</p>
<p>You sound so sweet, Nikker. Sorry about mom. Sometimes life and people’s past catch up to them and steam roll them, keeping them in survival mode. Your dad sounds like he is a keeper! Hats off to his working hard for you and bro. Take care my fellow Californian :).</p>
<p>my family (and my parents in particular) are so dysfunctional that i could write a book. but i won’t because I’m too ashamed to ever air my family’s dirty laundry (so to speak) to the public eye.</p>
<p>It’s shame on them, not on you. You’re the sane one, thank God!</p>
<p>Wow you guys…this is really touching and I’m glad this thread is made.</p>
<p>My parents divorced 13 years ago…my dad and mom were forced in an arranged marriage. They didn’t like it, so they divorced.
I live with my dad. He re-married a Chinese woman. So my step-mom is Chinese.</p>
<p>Hey John117, thanks for showing us that being “forced” to love is so damaging. Any time someone’s will is taken away, that in itself is unloving. I guess these “life experiences” can prove to be something we don’t promote. It sounds like you are doing well to have understood their situation. Nevertheless, how gut wrenching not having the joy of both parents daily, and second by second loving and encouraging you.</p>
<p>Parents haven’t divorced… they want to… but they have the common sense to stick around until we’re (my sister and I) both in college/out of school. I only found out by accident… I have to admit it was kind of a shock and got me down for a while =/</p>
<p>I like both my parents… and they both have their faults. My dad is right-wing nut but a cool guy and my mom is extremely nice and caring but can sometimes go a little crazy about small things.</p>
<p>Its not a perfect world, I guess. :P</p>
<p>^That’s really touching…I don’t even know how I would be able to cope up with that if I were in your shoes.</p>
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<p>Yeah, np. But I’m kinda cool with it I guess. I love my Chinese step mom. She’s awesome! But sometimes (as other people have pointed it out) its kinda weird to be Indian and have a Chinese mom…but eh.
At least my mom and dad love each other now.</p>