<p>You say of School A: "Our child will probably do well there, but virtually no time for a family or social life. " To me that answers your question. Don’t you WANT family time and a social life for your child? Those should not be sacrificed for a slightly enhanced chance at Ivies. Before you know it, your child will be heading off to college and no longer living with you. My D goes to a high school that is 10 minutes away. Already I feel like I don’t see much of her (especially once she got a driver’s license and car). The time we do get to spend with her, hearing about her joys, disappointments, triumphs and setbacks, seems very precious especially now that her senior year is right around the corner.</p>