<p>It's been two days since I've moved on dorm and I HATE it. I feel so out of place, everyone's talking with everyone and I'm just on my own but I like it that way. For a while I though my introvertness and/or social anxiety was a "bad" thing. I thought I'd never get anywhere in life with not talking to anyone, but I don't think so anymore. I can't join the Christian ministry on campus because I have classes when the meeting are held (i have to talk to the club president about the meetings), which means I can't join a club that I'm actual interested in. I think I'm going to be in the counseling center most of my college experience. GET ME OUT OF HERE</p>
<p>Perhaps you should embrace something from the secular society on which this country is based. There’s a whole world out there outside of your religion. Maybe try checking some of it out. You might like it. College is about trying new things. I’m sure you can find some type of club you’d enjoy.</p>
<p>If you want to meet people, you have to go out and meet them. You aren’t going to meet anyone sitting in a dorm room.</p>
<p>I sympathize with you because I’m a Jewish introvert and I made most of my friends through the Jewish organizations. If I didn’t have that, I’m not sure what I would do. But there are plenty of people like you-- I promise not everyone is an extroverted partier. If you can’t join the Christian ministry, maybe find a club based on volunteering/community involvement? I think you’d find similar people there. Something like Habitat for Humanity or tutoring/mentoring students.</p>
<p>Is joining the Christian ministry the only thing in which you are interested? Surely you have other hobbies and interests that are represented on campus.</p>
<p>Introverted just means that you gather most of your energy from being alone; but introverts aren’t always shy. So are you an introvert, or are you shy? Or both? Because if you’re not shy (or even if you are), one way to meet people is to just start talking to them. College freshman are all just like you - overeager to meet new people and make friends. Talk to someone who looks cool or says something funny after class, or wander around your residence hall if you live on campus and make some friends. I remember my freshman year the girls who were brave enough to randomly knock on other people’s doors, sit on your bed and chat.</p>
<p>There’s also the option of beginning your own Christian group. It doesn’t have to compete with the Christian ministry - maybe you start a weekly Bible study group, or a Christian music night or Christian volunteer group or whatever. Something that you like to do that will also attract other devout Christians on campus.</p>
<p>Also…you can be Christian and party.</p>
<p>^ I second the beginning your own Christian group. Or maybe you could just get together outside of club times with members from the ministry? </p>
<p>There has to be at least one other thing you’re interested in beside the ministry group. Find another club.</p>
<p>If it still sucks by next semester, you can always look into transferring.</p>
<p>You must go to a tiny college or a mega-leftist one if there is only one Christian group.</p>
<p>Ask if there are small groups/Bible studies.</p>
<p>I understand being an introvert, but why would being a Christian stop you from being friends or socializing with non-Christians? I know that sometimes you have a lot more in common with people in your religion which makes relationships more easygoing, but you can still hang out with others and have a good time :)</p>
<p>True, the OP should socially engage with all kinds of people (in fact, Jesus kind of ordered it), but Christians need to be with other Christians.</p>
<p>Huh, I understand where you’re coming from with the shyness part. Though I’m Muslim, and other people have taken an issue with my faith in the past, I don’t think that it has been a barrier for me personally when it comes to choosing possible acquaintences. Sometimes, making friends with people from various backgrounds can be a really eye-opening experience–being a religious minority, it’s pretty much what I’ve had to do. I can’t imagine dealing with a diagnosed social anxiety disorder, though. Is there a support group for people like you that you could possibly join? I would suggest taking baby steps, and maybe try to find new interests, as well.</p>
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I can identify with this, and I sympathize with the OP, but, at least for now, OP needs to find way to get along with not being around Christians as much. Like ghostalgic, that’s what I’ve had to do all my life as a religious minority. I know where the OP is coming from, but this is a part of life.</p>
<p>I hope the OP is able to adjust. It hasn’t even been a week yet 
If the situation gets really dire, he/she can consider transferring.</p>
<p>Moderator’s note: I deleted several posts that were off-topic and about religion. Please stick to the OP’s question.</p>
<p>um OP, the majority of students on campus are likely to be Christian (even if it’s only on Easter and Christmas), assuming you don’t go to really obscure school. There should be plenty of Christians to hang out with even if you don’t want to branch out (and you should try and branch out). I mean come on, we live in America. Christianity is by far the dominant religion. How hard can it be to find Christian friends?</p>
<p>I go to a party school and was able to find plenty of Christians to hang out with.</p>