@theaterwork thank you so much for your post. I have been doubting all day. She only has one rejection and one deferral at this point, but she’s brunette soprano singer first and I just feel like her competition is steep. She has said “ I don’t feel like I stood out” after an audition. For goodness sakes, these kids just want to study their passion. Why does it have to be so difficult?
I want to “like” your comment 1,000 more times @anotherBwaymom These kids are talented, smart, HARDWORKING, dedicated, passionate, engaged, kind, insightful, motivated kids with great communication skills/ people skills and they have to fight such an INSANELY uphill battle just to get a shot at studying and training in a college setting. The funny thing is- Probably 90% of these kids auditioning are the “type” of kid a university in general would kill to have attending their school! (gotta love getting an academic acceptance, then an academic scholarship, then an artistic rejection).
@savedrama4momma I cannot agree more. She has received academic acceptances from every school and I see that is very common on this site. Some of these schools are very selective and others who have gotten in are ecstatic posting all over, but my poor kiddo can’t be proud of it either at all or yet. She is very academically talented and an extremely successful performer in our neck of the woods, but we are not even sure if any of these schools are willing to train her. Some days I wish I never let her take this path, but if it’s the only way, what are we to do? Also, the fact that none of the schools give feedback , or rarely do. How can she know what they actually want? I’m sorry for the rant and maybe by the end of this, I’ll be thrilled by some school, but as of now I’m entirely frustrated and dissolutioned by the process.
@anotherBwaymom, it’s difficult, I think, in part to prepare them for the even higher hills they will have to climb once their schooling is done and their auditioning in the real world.
It’s sooo early, @anotherBwaymom . It is hard-but try not to futurize, or fret your D’s Senior year away. It seems like a lifetime when we are livin’ it (and this is round 2 for us)-but it’s only a couple of QUICK (ok, maybe a bit longer if waitlists come into play) months before you will have the entire academic, artistic, and financial picture. Wishing your D broken legs!
@anotherBwaymom My D is a freshman in a program now but I remember the doubts I had & she had and we both still have! It doesn’t go away unfortunately altogether. Your D sounds like mine, brown haired, soprano, Caucasian and a singer first. It is probably the worst pool to be in tbh but actually when we were at an audition last year I was talking to a mom who was there with her D and she was a theatre casting person as her job and she said the blonde soprano pool was worse lol. It is hard to think that you don’t stand out after an audition, Especially when it is so short. and yes I agree why does it have to be so difficult, I mean to spend all this $ & do all this work to graduate & probably 75% of the time have a very difficult time finding work. It truly is crazy. But I will tell you I have seen and heard some absolutely nutso stuff the past couple years in regard to MT admissions. Always remember above all else…at least 60% of it probably will make no sense. and it aint over till the fat lady sings!
This may be stepping on a time honored tradition here on CC. Please feel free to throw tomato’s but sometimes I question whether the big list of acceptances is helpful. I’ve been participating and it’s voluntary but sometimes I feel like there’s a horse race aspect to it? Even with all the great vibes and support. I think the discourse here is wonderful and very kind- no shade intended. The Acting and MT forums are a saving grace for many of us and I’ve learn and continue to learn so much but I’m not sure if that part is actually helpful? I hope this isn’t too weird to say and feel free to ignore.
There is usually a final decision thread later in spring and often people include all info there (yes, no, callbacks, waitlists, etc). That way people can see the big picture once it is complete and decisions are made (so no feeling pressured along the way by comparing to others). I really enjoyed that thread our year and was fascinated by all the different stories. Think there was one on both drama and MT pages
@laylamom… we were at Indiana University and after the program head escorted the group to dance workshop the parents were left with students in the program for a Q&A … one parent asked “What advice to parents would you give to support our kids in this lengthy process” … a male junior immediately responded stay off CC
@laylamom I tend to agree that perhaps it doesn’t serve a great purpose, the list of acceptances. Yes it is totally voluntary of course but of course everyone is reading it and feeling left behind or like they didn’t do enough. I mean it probably creates hard feelings and makes some feel bad / sad to be honest. I know it made me feel a bit sad last year I will admit. plus it really does ramp up everyone’s anxiety which is so bad to begin with. Not sure if people would agree to get rid of it though…it does seem to be a tradition lol. I am thinking the only purpose is that it signifies completing the process for some people?
&… I don’t think you are weird for bringing that up 
@anotherBwaymom thanks for putting many of my thoughts on paper. I’m not completely disallusioned (yet; its way too early for that, for fear I may lose my mind and take dd along for the ride). I knew what we were getting into. I just feel like at least one ‘yes’ will put me and dd in a better frame of mind. Despite passing 4 pre-screens, she didn’t pass one, has two "no"s and one wait list. I appreciate everyone’s candor, in revealing what their kids have been through this far.
I know when the time comes, and I share in the thread of acceptances, the no’s and waitlists won’t matter. I read through all of them last year, and was amazed at what some kids didn’t get into after getting into other programs. I’m holding on to those threads as hope.
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Final Decision stories are my favorite! But I love to hear about acceptances (AND redirects, when people choose to share) because it kind of gives a heads’ up as to when schools are notifying-and it’s awesome to celebrate all of our kids’ “yay” moments. My D thinks that I am clinically insane for checking in here so often…but I possessed not a clue on how to guide her, before I discovered CC in March of her Junior year. Like, I didn’t know what a prescreen was. Or a dance call. Or Unifieds. OH! Or a rep book! And she celebrates too-when I tell her that ElleWoods2K16 (not a real handle-at least I don’t think so) gets accepted at Otterbein, lol!
@laylamom I totally get what you’re saying. I feel like the positive aspect of that acceptances list is you can connect with and message others accepted to the same program? May help as a resource if someone is trying to choose between schools or wants to ask program or campus specific questions to that other family? I’m a newbie- so I’m still trying to figure this all out. Reading last year’s forums though - huge huge help!!!
@owensfolks my d feels the same way! She’s been here to peek at stuff, so she knows it’s a good resource too.
FYI, Rider has updated their portal with decisions
Thanks @theaterwork. I love what @bfahopeful said about doing one at the end and sharing the journeys. Also freely talking about acceptances, redirects, disappointments all of it is helpful. Theaterwork you really put into words how my stomach feels about the running list. I’m gonna’ skip that part from now on and do it at the end. I loved reading peoples stories here in years past. I hear ya’ @Mom2E I have been told this as well but I really have learned so much here. I am better able to help my daughter through this. Before I found this forum a few years back I was clueless. Also this is a very unique process no one where I live knows what people here know.
@dramamama2022 you could start a waitlist thread
Most of the people I know just think we are out of our minds for applying to so many schools, scholarship applications, etc. It is nice to have a resource for information and also a place where you realize that not only are you not crazy but there are a lot of other people like you. I am starting to get anxious about unifieds. That is a totally new level of craziness for us!
@CentralOHmomof4, I don’t think my D’s “still in consideration” is the same as being waitlisted. Someone correct me if I’m wrong, but I think a waitlist is more formal and is created when a school accepts the exact number of people they want in their program and then officially waitlists some people to replace any who decline their acceptance. Some schools don’t waitlist. For example, Syracuse accepts 50-60 people into their program with the goal of getting 23. Emerson said they accept 50-60 with s goal of getting 18.
Folks, CC was my rock four years ago. Those wonderful moms cheered me on and pulled me through the dark times. I have met some of them since and we are good friends. Guess what, those who can get to NYC are coming to hear my D sing professionally next month. We still cheer on our kids’ successes and comfort each other when things didn’t work out so well. You are in the pit of hell right now, but I assure you, it WILL work out. Stay strong; there is a light at the end of the tunnel!