<p>Our daughter graduated more than three years ago and has been self-supporting ever since. At the time, she had money left in her college fund (she did us the great favor of going to a public university and insisted on working part time while going), and offered to give it back to us for our son's education (private, all the way.) We told her to hang onto it, until she knew her educational future. Now, she's decided to become an elementary school teacher -- and will be earning less than she does now.</p>
<p>We had always told both kids grad school would be their financial responsibility. But, given how much more we spent on our son's education than our daughter's, even though the choices were theirs; and given that she's chosen a field that will not allow her to make enough to pay back loans for a very long time; and given how financially responsible she has always been, I'm sure we will help if she needs it and we can. I don't know that any of these factors should count, but somehow they do.</p>