<p>somemom, What you describe is exactly what happened to my nephew, & he was exactly the same age. It is not the only experience that has figured into my perspective, but his & his parents' experience has definitely affected me. I think the whole issue of parental support for grad school is much more tied to the parents' financial situation than anything else. </p>
<p>anxiousmom,The point I was making, as were others, is that the hypothetical position of having "disposable" income would give us the "luxury" of even making such a choice. I doubt that I will have such a choice. However, if I did, my decision would not be based on someone else judging that my D would be less adult or less independent to be so graced or so fortunate. We are all entitled to our own values & priorities.</p>