<p>Just jumping on board to agree w/the 'paying your own grad way' idea!</p>
<p>My parents paid for <em>everything</em> for my (private) undergraduate. I was basically clueless about the money involved, their sacrifice, everything. When I went to grad school (after a 6 year break) of course I'd never even <em>dream</em> of having them pay anything. They would have tried (had they been able) but there's just something about being a 'grown up' at that point that made me resistent to the idea (even tho I had to borrow every penny!!). Coincidently, I was a 1000 % more motivated, career-wise, after grad school...!</p>
<p>Of course every person (and parent/child relationship) is different!!!</p>