College and Relationships!

<p>I am currently going out with a sophmore whom I love and was wondering what you guys think of going into college while in a relationship. I live in NYC and will be going to college within four hours. And are there more relationships or hookups in college?</p>

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Definitely hookups, though it depends on the college. At a school like UIowa, Arizona, or San Diego State, hookups are far more common and relationships are pretty rare. Hookups are also more common for underclassmen.</p>

<p>The question for you--do you have a car?</p>

<p>If you've got a car that you'll have on campus, go for it. If not, don't bother.</p>

<p>I don't know about you guys...but it seems as if everyone here is in a relationship. It's kind of sickening.</p>

<p>I know. I'm like the only one who hasn't been in one throughout college. Mostly because the girls on my campus are stupid.</p>

<p>Yeah, at my college its the same. All of the girls are with older guys/guys that go to community college. The rest are alcoholics that hook up with any guy. It is disturbing.</p>

<p>You can definitely try. Just know when to let go and move on if things start getting too difficult...not many high school relationships work out after one (or both) gets to college.</p>

<p>Noone cares. Noone.</p>

<p>depends if you're an underclassmen hook ups but upperclassmen like junior and seniors relationships upperclassmen are ready to settle down more!</p>

<p>I think there's an even number of hookups and relationships here, or at least, people generally keep the hookups under wraps, like they don't go talking about how "OMG I totally made out with this hot guy at the bar last night, I wish I remembered his name so I could facebook him!" or anything. It's kinda sickening how many people are in serious relationships though. I mean, I guess I was kinda in one last semester too, but we were never the sickeningly cute ones.</p>

<p>Hook ups are disgusting, at least I think so. It's got to be a real relationship for me.</p>

<p>I go to college in Boston and my boyfriend goes to college in NYC. It's about the same as you, 4-5 hours on an average bus ride. It takes a lot of time, money, and love and it's so damn hard when you're both freshman adjusting. From the couples I know if, it's normal to take a break or..well..have an open relationship, because we're horny teenagers and college is the place that endorses such activities. In my opinion, people say that you should explore and experience, but when you have something good, you don't have to let it go. I've watched my college friends drink away loneliness, and I'm glad I was never in that situation.</p>

<p>Well, I go to a university in Las Vegas and my pookie goes to ASU *Arizona State. He always drives from Arizona once a month to see me. It's worked out for the both of us so far because we see each other every month, and we're grateful for the time that we have together <a href="http://unlv.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=30484308&id=23709098%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://unlv.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=30484308&id=23709098&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p>

<p>hate to say it, but you'll be lucky if you make it out of your freshman year. </p>

<p>when you go to college, you meet new people - a lot of times, better people. and long-distance relationships are difficult in the first place (at least from what I have seen/heard by general consensus). All but 3 the people I know who went into college already coupled are still together (I'm in my third year). Two are planning to get married, the other already is.</p>

<p>Not to say it can't be done, but it's pretty tricky. </p>

<p>There are definitely more hookups in college - pretty nasty. At my school, hookups end up pretty gross because the undergrad pop. is very small. Everyone knows who did what with who at parties/bars/clubs. It's more sickening that people actually remember this stuff.</p>

<p>if this is any comfort, a friend who goes to school in massachussetts has been with his girlfriend for 2.5 years - she goes to school in NY. they drive down every weekend for like 3 hours to see each other. he arranges all his classes on tues, wed and thurs so that he has a uber long weekend for her/any other activities. i believe they will be getting married soon</p>

<p>Amongst my friends, I can think of two situations. One is where the girl is here, and the guy is in the south. Didnt work. The other is where the guy is here and the girl is the next state over at another college. That worked.</p>

<p>If you want it to work it can, if you don't it won't. That's pretty much the way it goes. I've been dating this guy for two years and he's going to Dental School at NYU and I'm at UNC. I was really upset when I heard he was going to leave but we are going to do our very best to see each other and communicate and arrange our schedules to be with each other. I will go up there once a month and he willl come down once a month and holidays will make it easier. It all depends on if you truly love someone or whether you are just comforted by their presence. I say don't give up on something good!
Good luck!</p>