<p>so im wondering:
how often does college dating/relationship lead to marriage? i figure it's not very common because after undergrad, people part ways because of grad school/job opportunities...</p>
<p>There's actually quite a lot of people who go on to get married/get married right out of undergrad.</p>
<p>I am friends with a number of couples who started dating freshman or sophomore year and eventually got married.</p>
<p>It's like any relationship, if you find the right person, why simply toss it away with graduation. People do go on to grad school and stuff, but it's not impossible to end up in close proximity or the same school.</p>
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<p>I know a few who did get married or engaged.</p>
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Or people stick together and find grad schools / job opportunities that fit with their relationship instead of the other way around.</p>
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<p>thanks. you guys have much more optimistic and realistic mindsets than i do</p>
<p>The number of wedding invitations I've gotten from my recently graduated friends indicates it happens at least sometimes! I know a few people who got engaged senior year and married soon (within a year) after graduation, a few who got engaged right after graduation and married or plan to be married within the next 1-1.5 years, and a bunch with no specific wedding plans who are nonetheless clearly serious about one another--signing leases, sending out joint holiday cards, etc. It still kind of freaks me out to go to my peers' weddings, but I'm getting used to it :-P</p>
<p>I'm a strong believer that "meant to be" doesn't just happen; you have to work for it. So the logistics of post-graduation life may be a challenge, but if the relationship is important enough to you you'll find a way to make things work.</p>
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<p>there are a lot of people your age very close by in college, so there are lots of people to meet. Some people do get married right after school. Some wait and see where their relationship goes.</p>
<p>people are generally more mature when they graduate college (compared to high school) and are more capable of making a long distance relationship work if they both want to. Especially on the east coast, many big cities are fairly close together, ie close enough that it is not that big a deal to drive from one to the other on friday afternoon and back on sunday evening.</p>
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<p>god that scares me.. i could not imagine meeting my future husband at this point in my life. but i have to admit, i have heard there are a crazy amount of BC marriages 5 years after you graduate.</p>
<p>Jeeeeeeeez.</p>
<p>i'm an engaged undergrad. my fiancee and i plan on getting married the summer after our senior year. it doesnt really seem commonplace at our college, but whatever relationship a couple has is up to them. i dont really think it matters what stage of your life you're in, that just seems to complicate things sometimes, but if the relationship is one that is meant to last, the couple will stay together no matter what.</p>
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<p>I know quite a few who got engaged sometimes in their senior year after being together for a bit and get married in the summer after graduation. My thought is, "Omg, what's the rush?!" But I just keep my mouth shut and let things run their course. But don't get all stressed out (although I do... but I didn't because there weren't any eligible men for me at my undergrad) because know that it's your world and you have all the opportunities to do what you want to do before you get tied down.</p>
<p>We actually have a joke about it on our campus, apparently ALOT of people get married to eachother from our school (and we're quite small so it's kind of funny). Someone actually proposed to someone else in the quad at lunch last Friday!</p>
<p>Granted, I'm a mom, so my data is old, but nearly 100% of my friends met their mates in college, whether or not they married right afterward.</p>
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<p>I've heard that a lot of people that go to religious affiliated schools meet their spouses their. Places like Bob Jones, Baylor and BYU.</p>
<p>hell yeah, everyone at BYU gets married while in college. I had a friend who went there and got married sophomore year!!</p>
<p>otherwise honestly, whats the rush? ride it out and figure out who you really are--thats my $0.02</p>
<p>My school (small LAC, nonreligious) has the stat that 70% of alums marry another alum. That's not necessarily right out of college but is still intensely scary considering I've been dating my boyfriend (who goes to my school) for a year</p>
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<p>I see, yea I hope I marry my man the one I'm with in college since he is my first boyfriend. Yeah, I wasn't expecting to get my first boyfriend in college. I was planning on getting one in grad school or after grad school. So I'm still with him Jan. will be on 2nd year and I'm still shocked I have a man because well my personality is funny but I can be a bit loud and direct too but polite too. But we'll see though because in college you're still finding who you are and you never know what lies ahead.</p>
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<p>Bowdoin?
10char</p>
<p>Well, considering I am a senior, and everytime I turn around, it seems like another acquaintance or friend is engaged, that looks to be pretty true here anyway. I however am dreadfully single.</p>
<p>No one dates at my school.
It's more about the hook-ups and even when there is dating, it is more so about the 'constant sex' than anything else.
I'm about ready to give up on dating someone in college but you never know what could happen, ;)</p>