<p>Is there anyone else out there who feels this year is just really different from last year?</p>
<p>I'm a sophomore, and I'm just not finding this year to be as much fun as last year. There are just a lot of things that have been bothering me. </p>
<p>All my friends live across campus in suites. Normally, I wouldn't care, but I spent all of last year walking across campus to visit them. I have really just gotten sick of always having to be the one to go visit people. I wish people would come visit me, and want to hang out with me for once. Unfortunately, my lottery number for housing sucked, so I got put in a primarily freshmen dorm, and am surrounded by freshmen. </p>
<p>Because of the housing situation, I spend a lot of time in my room alone. My roommate and I are pretty close and do a lot of stuff together, especially on weekends, but the past couple of weekends he's been going off campus to visit friends at other schools and stuff, so that leaves me alone. When i'm alone I just have zero motivation to make the trek across campus to visit people, and only really see my friends when we go to get dinner.
My roommate gladly walks across campus to hangout with people when he his here on the weekends and even during the week because he hasn't had to do it as much as I have and hasn't gotten sick of it. </p>
<p>Another thing is that when my roommate isn't here and I do go across campus, my friends and I just sit around for hours trying to figure out what to do. A lot of the people we would go to hang out with last year that would have parties and stuff have graduated, so we all kinda feel like we've fell out of the loop, and don't know where to go for parties. The people that really seemed to know last year, don't seem to know this year, so maybe there just aren't any parties to go to anymore. Who knows?</p>
<p>Apart from that, I think everything else about college is good. In terms of academics I really like all my classes. Socially things just seem to suck.</p>
<p>Are your friends honestly so horrible that they won’t walk across campus to see you? They don’t even have to interact with any freshmen!</p>
<p>Please, do yourself a favor: invite over some nice person from one of your classes or a club, make friends with them, and find someone who’ll actually treat you well.</p>
<p>Find a mutual meeting spot that is convenient for everyone and in the middle of the walk, then decide if you’re going to go out somewhere else or go back to one of your or your friends rooms.</p>
<p>AtomicCafe: there is a kid in my two of my classes that i’m starting to become more friendly with and he lives pretty close to me, but he likes to party a lot. He smokes a lot. I don’t drink and haven’t smoked in a long time. </p>
<p>I don’t mind going to parties, but really I just do it more to meet people than to get messed up.</p>
<p>Its weird, right after I posted this last night, one of my friends came over to see me. She didn’t stay very long, but at least she came over. She was pretty drunk though.</p>
<p>WantsBrown: I already know that wouldn’t work. Its either we go to their room or nothing. We used to hang out in the library at the beginning of the year, but that was before some of them bought textbooks for their classes, so they would go to the library and use the textbooks on reserve. </p>
<p>You know, i’ve seen this happen before. Last year, there used to be a kid that would come with me to hang out with all of them, but as the year went on, he just completely cut himself off from all of them and made new friends. I can completely understand why he did that now. It just took me much longer than him to figure it out.</p>
<p>I don’t think they’re bad friends, they just don’t put in enough effort into being good friends.</p>
<p>How do you know those friends? As you get older, you’ll find that you want to be friends with people who share your interests. I think a lot of friendships in college begin as ones of convenience, with people who live close or share superficial interests. As you get older, you’ll realize that it’s hard to form meaningful connections with such people, and that you have to actively seek out people you genuinely like.</p>
<p>i hung out with them tonight, and they finally brought it up. They noticed that its been a while since i’ve been over and asked what was wrong, I told them, and they said they will try to work on this. Thats really all I wanted, if they are at least willing to try thats good enough for me. </p>
<p>Also, another reason college kinda sucks this year is a bunch of administrative crap. They cut the hours that the science library and music centers are open. Last year the science library used to be open from 8 am - 10pm. This year its open from 9am - 8pm, which is pretty useless. It also has really weird hours on the weekends, it opens at 2 in the afternoon on sundays. The music center closes half an hour earlier too, (11:30 instead of midnight).</p>
<p>Plan picnics for meals … and look up lists of things to do with friends on good ole google, then write them down. I always plan days and then suggest them to friends, and unless they’re too busy it works!</p>
<p>There’s really something to be said for not having to be the one to travel every time. My boyfriend doesn’t have a car, and for the first year we were together I did, so I had to drive 20 minutes EVERY time we saw each other. Now that I’ve moved into his area I make him take the bus every time because I am just so freaking SICK OF GOING THERE. D: I feel pretty bad for my friends now though because they are now all in the same situation I was before now that they have cars and I don’t anymore.</p>