Here are some more suggestions, purely from the instructor’s perspective, that address how a college student should deal with certain factors that may arise. They may contrast with conduct that was acceptable in high school.
That person whose class you are enrolled in is not a “teacher”. That person is an “Instructor of Record” for the class. The instructor is not there to spoon feed you pre-digested material. Think of the instructor as a guide who will point you in the direction to learn but what is learned is up to you. Be an active scholar not a passive high schooler. Despite societal pressure for freshman year to look like grade 13, it isn’t…yet.
If you miss class for any reason, don’t ask the instructor, “Did I miss anything?” You’re likely to hear a sarcastic reply like, “Nah we were waiting for you”.
The instructor is probably (although not always) not correctly addressed with a prefix indicative of marital status or gender. It is always safest to address the instructor using the term Dr., unless otherwise instructed.
When you miss class don’t expect the instructor to review with you what you missed. How many times do you expect the instructor to deliver the same material? So plan in advance and get a peer’s contact information (Hi. My name is Mike. I was wondering if we could exchange email addresses so if one of us is absent we can contact each other to find out…"). Then when absent, get notes from a peer.
If you have an illness or other situation that keeps you from attending class, check the attendance policy on the course syllabus. Also check the university’s attendance policy. Students routinely assume that unavoidable absences won’t interfere with the student’s grade or credit. In public high schools, the school is obligated to provide instruction to students who may have extended absences due to illness. That isn’t true in college. Students who are absent for any reason are not in class for that session regardless of why that is the case. If attendance is required, it does not really matter why you are not attending, you simply are not attending. If the number of absences exceed that allowable, the grade and/or credit may be impacted. Yes you can be denied credit for a class you could not attend due to mono. Some instructors may assign an Incomplete and allow students to make up the work. But doing so often introduces further problems. Some instructors are unwilling to do so because it is hard to keep track of where students are regarding “catch up”. Instructors are obligated to comply with their syllabus and university absentee policy. If you have a job and have exhausted your sick leave, you won’t be paid-regardless of how badly the boss feels for you. If you are enrolled in a class and have exhausted your absences you may not get credit. Most universities allow withdrawals and academic leaves to address protracted absences. Know your school’s policy.
Don’t ask for exceptions/extensions. Just don’t. How did you feel the last time you shorted one or more of your classes (and suffered grade consequences for doing so) in an effort to meet a deadline for an assignment in another class only to find that peers were given extensions and ended up doing better on everything. It’s a fairness issue.
Don’t ask the instructor what you can do to earn an “A” if your grade is not in the A range. That information is in the syllabus. And the syllabus is designed to ensure that everyone in the course has the same opportunities. If your grade isn’t in the A range your grade won’t be in the A range. As special as you are, requesting your own personal extra credit assignments to leap frog over peers is inappropriate.
Don’t ask, “Will it be on the test?” It does not matter. Hopefully your surgeon didn’t skip the lecture on sutures just because it wasn’t going to be on the test. Learn the material because you need to know it not because it will be on the test.
Don’t game tests, learn material. Advice about learning strategies to game tests is misguided. If you know the material you will do well on the test regardless of the test format. Many mediocre public colleges and even some private ones have become massive test taking training centers instead of being places students learn content/material. The goal is to become competent not to become test savvy.
Yes these seem harsh. Yet there has been a drift in expectations at colleges-from conduct appropriate for college students to conduct more appropriate to middle school. It’s time to elevate the university back to where it should be. That starts with setting certain expectations.