College isn't what I thought it would be.

Student Lounge College Life
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<p>I recently finished my second year of college, and I still don't love it. Whenever I talk to my friends from high school, they're always around huge groups of people and they go on about how much they absolutely love it and don't want to come home. I hate it, and it's mostly for social reasons.</p>

<p>My grades are great. Classes are difficult, but managable, and I love the subject matter, my professors and the fact that I'm studying what I like.</p>

<p>Unfortunately, I'm in a community college, (I will transfer to an University next year.) So there aren't many activities here. English is not my first language, so sometimes I don't feel very confident when talking to a stranger. I spent my last two birthdays watching movies alone in my room (My family lives VERY far). Actually the only time I go out is to do school stuff. I really don't want to sound like a whiner, or a depressed emo. But really it feels bad because so far it hasn't been the experience I wanted.</p>

<p>I'm not talking about American Pie kind of parties or doing crazy ****. I'm not really a party person, what I mean is a 'normal' college experience, friends, traveling, and yes why not some small parties here and there. The last two years have been just me and my computer. Yes, I do have a couple of friends, but they are like 27, 28 years old (I'm 20) they like to talk about different stuff, do different stuff and always ignore me because I'm much younger. </p>

<p>I just wish I loved it here, but I really don't. I just don't click with most people here. Everyone is nice, but I don't see lifelong friends. I dont even see year-long friends with most. </p>

<p>So my question is... will I grow to love it here? I want to love it. My high school friends are having so much fun. But is it normal to feel the way I do and, if so, when will things change? Will the real college experience start once I transfer? I can't help but think I picked the wrong college.</p>

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<p>A community college doesn’t have the same “feeling” that a traditional four year has. If you get involved on campus once you transfer, you’ll get more of that traditional college experience that you want.</p>

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<p>You sound thoughtful and self-aware. Just stick your neck out see what happens. Take a risk on something. You’ll be fine.</p>

<p>Just so you know, your written English in indistinguishable from that of a native speaker. In fact, I would go as far as saying you write quite well.</p>

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<p>I’m in a similar situation (albeit only a freshman), so I can’t really offer answers. But you shouldn’t feel like an odd-one-out for feeling like this, I know a ton of people online and off experiencing the same thing.
And I do think a traditional university is more conducive to friend-making.</p>