College life in need of help :/

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<p>Hi, I'm not sure if I am suppose to be posting here but anyways,
I'm having problems with my life at college.
I know its only been 4 days (its my freshers week right now) but I am really anxious if I can make really good friends, not just "friends on the surface".
*Sorry if what I am going to write doesn't make sense at all..I'm pretty upset right now ;( </p>

<p>I live in a flat with 4 other people, but I am not getting along. Actually, I am OK with them (I can chat with them whilst I am in the kitchen and stuff) but I feel like an outsider.
I did go clubbing and shopping with them once so far but I never know what to talk about so I end up standing there..really awkwardly.
While my other flatmates blabber on with other people who we met at like the clubs, again I just stand there smiling and nodding. :/
Because of that I now think my flatmates think I am socially awkward :/ (The other flatmates are going out tonight without me to go to another party of their friends..)
Maybe I am thinking too much and am really homesick (I really miss my friends back to where I was living;( AND it also makes me worried seeing my other friends look like they're having their time of their life at their new college) ..</p>

<p>I used to be really talkative/bubbly at my old highschool...I just don't know what happened. I know I'm nervous around my flatmates and I also think its because most of the flatmates come from the same country beside me. (So my flatmates are familiar with the stuff around the college)
It's hard for me to bring up a conversation since I dont really know whats "hot" in this country.
There's this other flatmate that I can talk to the most but shes only staying in the college for couple of years, and she has made friends from people in her own country. I think she doesn't really bother in trying to be friends with the flatmates since she only got couple of years..</p>

<p>I've been thinking of going to event on my own of my interests, but its hard since even if I do make friends there I will have to go home to my flat alone at night (The accommodation people told me not to walk on my own at night as it can get really dangerous) </p>

<p>I am super lost and lonely. I know I should be trying hard, but when ever I become awkward with my flatmates I get more scared and scared.. ;( I mean yesterday I stayed inside my room while people was in the kitchen.. </p>

<p>WHat should I do :/
Any advice will be strongly sppreciated.</p>

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<p>What you SHOULD do is give it time. You’re four days into your freshman years. I guarantee you that things never remain the same for an entire school year. Just try to make a more concerted effort to be talkative and friendly.</p>

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<p>NervusBreakdown,</p>

<p>Thank you so much for your reply :slight_smile:
I am beginning to be able to talk again (that sounds odd but lol) </p>

<p>I think what it was was that I just assume the first people I meet will be my great friend since I want to feel more comfortable in my new environment faster :confused: (Now I know how unbelievably mistaken I was) </p>

<p>Yes, I will give time, try to be friends with mostly everyone, and eventually find a really good friend. :slight_smile: </p>

<p>Thanks</p>

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<p>Yup. I mean there’s really no prescribed way to go about doing this. Everyone is different.</p>

<p>I remember that the first friends I made the first and second day of my freshman year were people who I met through a high school friend also going to the same school. So that was cool. But then a couple of days later some of the guys I live with (neighbors) decided to go to the game room in our university center and I tagged along basically. I was honestly surprised that one of them remembered my name from move-in day intros but yeah, eventually they became my closest friends.</p>

<p>Then obviously if you do projects or other clubs stuff, you’re bound to connect with some other people even if its just foundational work for a deeper friendship later.</p>