My earnest advice is to have lots of happy safeties. My daughter is currently attending one of these! And is happy and doing great and has no regrets.
She could have gotten in anywhere - but didn’t. High, high, high stats. Full pay. Leadership, rigorous curriculum, 11 AP 5s, good writer, the whole package. We were simply astonished at the number of rejections and wait lists (she didn’t bother with these).
You need great safeties. Preferably in state!