<p>i have been at college for three weeks now and it still isn't what i've expected. i keep telling myself that it will get better with time but then i keep remembering that my two older brothers loved it right away. just to further add to that, all my friends that went to college are loving it already. the first week i was miserable, between homesickness and boredom but i told myself that it was only the first week and that i should give it time. Now its the third week and i barely feel any better. I was wondering if there were any people out there who got off to a bad start like me who had it turn around later on. and if so, how long did it take for the change. im really out of my element right now, but i am trying to look to the future with optimism.</p>
<p>Come on now. Of course people are going to adjust to college at different rates. Some people adjust after one year. Some two. Some never adjust. You really just need to give it time. I think many (probably most) people feel out of their element at first…it’s a big change!</p>
<p>I’m in my third week of college and feel almost the same way. I’m not miserable or anything, just not enjoying it as much as I “should” be.</p>
<p>
</p>
<p>Sounds to me like you’re not trying to get more out of your experience. If you sit around missing home being bored, it’s going to be a miserable four years.</p>
<p>You’ve got to go out, meet people, make friends, have fun, go to events, join clubs, prop your door open, talk to strangers, etc.
Study a lot (get good grades) but make time to relax too. If you just sit around “hoping” it’ll get better, it won’t.</p>
<p>i had a slow start my freshman year and it did get better in a month or so. 
hang in there.</p>
<p>I’ve been in college for a week now, and I don’t really like it that much. Maybe it’s my obligatory courses (all of them), or my crappy schedule, or even the fact that I’m staying with my parents throughout college. idk…it just sucks so far. But I’m still in touch with a few of my old high school friends are we get together to make fun of the professors, so that’s something I look forward to. But I don’t think this is going to last long, the idea of college still seems exciting to me, and I want to live it to the fullest, so a few bad days aren’t that big of a deal.
So just give it time. You’ll like it eventually.</p>
<p>I’ve been at college for about 3 weeks now and it’s been going incredibly well. I’ve met a great group of 5 friends who are just as quirky as I am, and we hang out together basically every day. I think the key to meeting people and forming lasting friendships is to start out with the basics-- invite a classmate to lunch or ask them if they want to study together. Eventually, you will progress to more than just a casual lunch chat and will have met a lot of people you like. If one person doesn’t work out, don’t worry about it-- there are plenty of others who I’m sure have things in common with you.</p>
<p>Also, don’t be afraid to join random clubs where you don’t knw anyone. Undoubtedly, there are people who feel just as out of plae as you, my roomate being one of them, and will open up well if you just insert some random comment here or there.</p>
<p>Seriously, once you start meeting people you click with, college will be a lot mroe fun-- don’t worry about how long it takes-- it will differ from person to person :)</p>
<p>I think one of the problems is that the college years and going to college in general is so built up in students minds, that it can be a let down once you get there and it’s not what you expected. My son seems to be feeling very much the same and he is in his Sophmore year. He always heard “College is the best 4 years of your life” or things of that nature that led him to believe it was gonna be awesome every minute. The truth is that there is a lot of down time, studying, feeling lonely, etc. to overcome in college.</p>
<p>I agree that you should try and join as many activities that you can…whether it be clubs, volunteer work, a fraternity, the school’s radio or TV station, etc…whatever looks interesting to you. You will be busier and meet people that way and find a place for yourself.</p>
<p>If after a year or two at college and you still feel like a fish out of water, then it’s time to consider if you picked the right school.</p>
<p>I used to be somewhat of a loner in high school, and I kept saying to myself, “It’s okay, once I get to college, everything will change.” Well, guess what? After my first day in college, nothing had changed. That first night, I truly felt like *****. I realized that I can’t just wait for people to say hello to me. I gotta make the first move.</p>
<p>Monkolony, the trick is to shed your pride. If you actually go up to people and introduce yourself, you will find that most people are very friendly and inviting. </p>
<p>Also, join clubs and stuff.</p>
<p>I just graduated college, but I’m spending this year doing other stuff that required a major transition, being away from home (in a new way), and stuff like that. My first week was absolutely miserable beyond words. My next two, two and a half months were up and down, mostly on the down-side of “fine.” I’m a week short of three months and suddenly, almost out of nowhere, I’m in love with my situation. It’ll probably keep going up and down, but it’s taken me this long to really begin coming around.</p>
<p>Obviously you should continue to pay attention to your feelings, and if nothing clicks, well…then nothing clicks. But don’t worry just because you’re not feeling great as quickly as others you know. Different strokes for different folks :)</p>
<p>I’ve been here for about six days and its pretty fun. Just go out and hang out with people in your hall. If they’re anything like my hallmates, they’ll welcom you with open arms. Of course I must admit, I am a little bored right now. I still have to pick up my books =/</p>