There are two VERY different things here.
When most people talk about âcollege prepâ, they donât actually mean âcollege prepâ, they mean âcollege admissions prepâ.
Thinking about admissions prep for an 8th grader is a great way to make their high school years miserable.
If you want to make sure that your kid does not enjoy doing anything during their entire high school career, because they are always second guessing as to âwill this help me get into a Good College?â, start college admissions prep at 8th grade, by all means.
If you want your kid to miss out on all of their opportunities to be a teen, to develop emotionally and mentally because they are obsessed about only doing stuff which will help them get into a Good College, start them at college admissions prep in 8th grade.
If you want your kid to internalize that learning and intellectual life is worthless on their own, and that the only important thing about any class is whether colleges like seeing it on the transcript, start it at 8th grade.
If you want your kid to learn that nothing s worthwhile doing for its own sake, and that the only reason to engage in any activity is for the reward of admission to an âeliteâ college, there is no better way to do this than to start early and begin hammering this into them from 8th grade.
If you want to make sure that they will be devastated when, almost invariably, they will not be accepted to HYSM, the earlier the better.
If you want to make sure that they have their first college related meltdown even before they start high school, you need to make sure to start college admissions prep before high school.
If you really feel as though you cannot live without the experience of your kid burning out by Junior year, youâd better get them on college admissions prep by 8th grade!
In fact, why start the joys of putting your kid under intense pressure to perform as late as 8th grade. Tiger parents have demonstrated that its never to early to destroy all joy that your kids will have in discovery and achievement.
On the other hand, starting a kid on exploring their interests and strengths, there is no need to wait until 8th grade.
You should be preparing your kid for life, and college is a tiny fraction of the rest of their lives. The most important thing that we should be teaching our kids about college is how to use their college years in the manner which helps them live their lives as best they can. We should not be preparing our children to be accepted to the most prestigious college that WE can imagine. We should be teaching our kids to choose the college which will best help them in the life trajectory.
Moreover, college admission prep at 8th grade is not only bad, it is not very useful. For example, my kid did nothing in 8th grade to help her get into college.
To be more correct - she did great things, including top awards in robotics, awards in math club, professional dance show, and others.
However, when she applied for college, she did not have either robotics or math club in her applications, and she was at a totally difference dance school, and participated in entirely different dance activities than she did in 8th grade.
Maybe had she started her college admission prep in 8th grade, she would have been accepted to HYP, and therefore would have therefore achieved lifelong success and happiness. I donât know. As it is, she is merely at a very good LAC on a very prestigious scholarship, is doing very well, and is on track to her dream career. But maybe since she is not at an Ivy, she isnât really happy.
As for her friend group - not a single one of them or their parents started college admission prep in 8th grade. However, most are still at excellent colleges or programs (like JHU, CS at UMich, UCLA, Pomona, Cornell, etc), or at excellent colleges with great merit aid. None is at a HYP, though, so they maybe all could only be under the illusion of happiness.