Funny you should ask that, moooop. L and her family (interracial) are actually part of an ongoing documentary (I think Spike Lee is behind it somehow).
I don’t know whether she’s “more concerned” about the white neighbors or the black ones, but her point is completely valid. k’s white son would not be at risk of getting stopped by a cop or getting shot at by a gun-toting freak the way L’s black son is.
Last year, a young black man went door to door in my neighborhood selling something. He was dressed in khakis and was polite. I was in my driveway talking w him and inquiring what it was he wanted when a squad car pulled up. Apparently some neighbor had called the cops. I guarantee if my white son had gone door to door, no one would have called the cops. The cops respectfully questioned him and ascertained he wasn’t trouble, but it was very upsetting to our family as we realized that indeed we would be treated differently.
This isn’t rocket science. There are plenty of stupid micro aggressions that people whine about but there is also truth in disparate treatment.
I think often about the fact that if I as a white woman schlep out of the house with my hair pulled back, no makeup, sweatpants, etc. I’m just a sloppy white lady - but I’m not perceived to be a representative of or discredit to my race.