college sophomore wtih no friends/housing issues. please help me out!

<p>so i've posted a couple times on this site before about how i'm a sophomore in college and really struggling to make friends and while that problem is ongoing, a new one has sprung up. </p>

<p>so about having no friends: i'm sincerely at a loss of what to do. i've done intramurals, went to meetings for many organizations, got friendly with some people in class and still nothing. i'm friends with my new roommate and hang out with her friends sometimes but they are wicked pot heads (which i don't mind) but i'm not really that type of person. i have fun sometimes when i hang out with them, but i haven't gotten very close with them and only see them when its through my roommate. i've tried everything i could think of and everything people have told me and i still don't have any friends. i'm absolutely miserable and at a complete loss of what to do. i'm a very normal person and a pretty good friend but i just don't know what to do anymore.</p>

<p>my new problem is that i don't know what to do about housing next year. i decided that next spring i am either going abroad or doing the disney college program to get a change from school, but in the fall i'm screwed. up until now, i've always just done random roommate selection in a dorm room but about 90% of juniors here live off campus. the whole process for housing is drastically changing here, too meaning that juniors and seniors who want to live on campus are getting royally screwed. i don't want to live in a single room next semester because i would never meet new people (and my roommate this year, my only friend, is going away for next fall). i am also weary of doing another regular dorm room with a random roommate because they are going to be killing upperclassmen with "economy triples" next year and the rooms are already tiny. my last option would be to live in the on campus housing, but i don't know if that would be weird because i'd be living in an apartment with three random people i've never met. </p>

<p>as you can tell, i'm very stressed out and confused. sorry this was so long but if anyone can help me out, i would greatly appreciate it. thank you!</p>

<p>I am not qualified to answer this as a professional. But I am a parent and feel your pain. The most important thing that you must keep in mind is that you are very important and are very much needed. Regardless of how many friends others SEEM to have. True friends are very rare and in time you will find yours.</p>

<p>Have you considered looking at your schools newspaper classifieds? Or at the Student Union is there a board where students that need roommates post? Try to meet some future roommates here you never know? and dont worry about rooming with a Jr. The important thing is to find someone that you click with.</p>

<p>Your top priority must be your studies and the rest will follow.</p>

<p>On making friends? In my opinion you have to let it happen. Are you active in your college’s club? What do you enjoy? Whatever it is find an organinzation that fits your needs. Whether it is walking, running, biking, rowing, tennis, golf, reading, history, yoga, swimming you get the idea ANYTHING that you enjoy. Whether you do it with some one or alone sooner or later you will meet someone.</p>

<p>What about your family? Have you discussed this with them? My son tells us what is going on when he needs help and we try to give him the best advice possible. Or maybe a HS friend? or a sibling. Talk to someone about what you are going through. I think it is great that you came here with your concerns. There are a lot of great people on here that will share excellent advice with you.</p>

<p>Try to keep smiling your worth it.</p>

<p>gator, thanks for the help. that’s good advice about the roommate thing i will try it. just to clarify though, i will be a junior next year so i won’t have a problem living with a junior, just finding one to live with. and to make friends i have tried a lot of that stuff but none of it seems to be working. i go to the gym a lot but i didn’t really like any of the organizations i tried.</p>

<p>I’m very sorry for the predicament you’re in. I’ve been there and it sucks. My best advice is to just put yourself out there. You have to put yourself in situations to find friends…that means smiling at people, talking to people in classes, etc. Start sitting by people that you like regularly in classes, have conversations, suggest studying together outside of class etc. </p>

<p>As far as clubs, what are you passionate about? What do you enjoy doing? I don’t know your major, but you might join a club that has to do with that. Or you could join an intramural team if you like sports. Does your school have Greek life? That is a great way to meet people. Professional and service fraternities are great too. You could also get a job. Coworkers spend a lot of time together and can relate to each other, so that is a great way to make friends.</p>

<p>As far as your living situation, could you post your class’s facebook wall or classifieds that you are looking for a roommate(s). I’m sure a lot of other people are in the same situation as you and don’t know who to live with. If this doesn’t work, it might be your best bet to go random in an apartment. I know a lot of people who did this and ended up becoming good friends with their roommates. Good luck and I hope this helps!</p>