On soccer side of things, University of Chicago is ranked #1 right now (though there is a lot of movement in the rankings through the end of regular season and post-season play) and Oberlin is in the top 25 in some rankings so those programs are likely to be very competitive for recruiting over the next couple of years.
My soccer kid, who is playing D3, had a few college visits spring of sophomore year to check out schools and meet with coaches to find out more about the recruiting process. Our experience was, for a D3 recruit, the college time line is accelerated by about 6 months as compared to other students. By spring of 11th grade, it is very helpful if the student has a short list of schools where they are likely to be recruited and where they have had enough experience on campus to know they would be happy to attend.
A long way of saying, most D3 coaches are used to scheduling meetings with prospects, and will meet with you for 15-30 minutes to talk about their program, recruiting, expectations for academics and soccer etc. Although my kid was very nervous as a spring of 10th grade student to walk into a coach meeting, it was a good experience and helped him sort out his priorities over the next year.