<p>Alright guys, first of all, I won't be here for long, I am just looking for some advice and I think this is the forum for it.</p>
<p>So for my first two years of college, I went to a commuter school. My social life there was sort of meh, but as I moved on it kind of picked up. </p>
<p>Well, then I applied as a transfer to some universities and the one I ended up applying to and going to was a Division 1A SEC school. When I did get in I found out that it was a top 5 party school according to some sources.</p>
<p>I finished my spring semester here (as a Chemistry major and History minor) and quite honestly my social life has been trash. Eating alone at dining halls, going out alone to bars, etc. Overall I am an outgoing person but my social life just did not pick up. Maybe because I was busy and trying to adjust to living out on my own for the first time. </p>
<p>I did make friends but it was mainly with freshman students and sophomore. Did make SOME friends who were upperclassmen.</p>
<p>Fall means football season and my school has a great football program. I plan on going to the games.</p>
<p>Anyways, I am going to be a senior but most likely end up doing an extra semester or an extra year here. I was wondering, is it possible for me to get a good social life going or is it too late for that now? I prefer to spend a lot of my time with other upperclassmen.</p>
<p>I’d just be thankful for having the freshmen and sophomores be your pals…besides if you stay there 2 more years they’ll be upperclassmen by the time you graduate.</p>
<p>I had a similar experience as a transfer. I had a couple of friends who were freshmen and sophomores, because even though we were in completely different stages of life at the time we had a lot more in common as new students. Fitting in with existing students was a lot harder for me, even though I can come up with no rational reason for that to be the case. I did make friends with some students my age who were in my department, study groups and things were a big help. </p>
<p>I think the nature of friendships and the way you go about making friends changes a lot after you get out of high school and a lot of people struggle with that… and I think when you’re a transfer student you are starting out a year or two behind in that adjustment which can be hard to make up. My main observation is that while some people still have that main “core” group of friends who does everything together and who are always around each other like they did in high school, a lot of people don’t anymore and that is normal and okay-- you can flit between different groups and different individual friendships, and as busy adults with work and school you do spend a lot more of your time alone than you may have before. That doesn’t mean you’re a social misfit, it means people are busy and you have a wider range of types of friendships than you used to.</p>
<p>It may interest you to know my social life in college was a little on the lackluster side, but since entering the professional world I’ve had no problems whatsoever. I’ve had an easier time making friends at work than I ever had in my life. I remember people frantically trying to make friends and in particular romantic acquaintances because they thought it would be so hard to meet people after college and that couldn’t be further from the truth, imo. </p>
<p>And P.S.: It’s never too late. I wouldn’t ever stop trying. I might just look at your lifestyle and that of your peers and make sure your expectations are reasonable.</p>
<p>Thanks for sharing your experience, yet what I do not get is how most people I see at dining halls are sitting down with a group and I am not. I mean I haven’t had the chance to go to the nice places for spring break or the wild college parties people talk so much about.</p>
<p>would love more discussion on this</p>
<p>I recently transferred from community college to a four year (just finished my first year). I made some friends through study groups, but recently made a ton of friends all at once by going on a study abroad trip- it was only two weeks after the semester ended, but we had a blast and are all super close now. Bam- nine new friends in one fell swoop. </p>
<p>You could also try going on school sponsored trips- mine does community service/trip to Hershey, PA for spring break, trips to DC over three day weekends like President’s Day, etc. You might want to see if your school offers anything like that.</p>
<p>Thanks, I will look into that!!! =)</p>