<p>First of all OP, RELAX! You will be plenty challenged in college no matter where you go, if you seek out tough courses and professors. My kid is at Fordham. Fordham is the tale of two cities. There are slacker programs and slacker kids (mostly long islanders and a few from Connecticut and New Jersey) who can polish their apples and get their good grades on EASY classes from easy professors, add/drop madness avoiding hard professors and classes. But my kid took the harder path with a select group of honors programs kids and works extremely hard every semester taking the toughest professors who are notoriously stingy on giving out Aâs and even B+'s. </p>
<p>Some Ivy schools are reputed to be tough to get in but not very tough once you are there, taking three courses a semester and a lot of free time. Cornell Engineering is not one of those programs.</p>
<p>Be careful what you wish for, however. College is more than being in a cubicle in the library for four years. Those kids are often nerdy, make few friends, and have an almost anti social personality and in the end DONT GET THE JOBS (and have to end up chasing a PhD somewhere to hopefully end up teaching). Why? They donât get along well with people in the office and arenât team players. Got it?</p>
<p>Some schools have reputations (which you have to decide for yourself is either true/false after a visit, and if it fits you or not) of being hyper and frenzied places. William and Mary and WashU StL are classics for this. Not laid back. The kids we met at BOTH schools were indeed all looking very frenzied, hyper and at WashU all they talked about (jacked up on caffeine, was being a triple major in this or that, as if that makes them better people? No. Sorry, it doesnt.) </p>
<p>Wake is often called WORK Forest. Work load is rough, but its not overwhelming. They have fun too. </p>
<p>Its all about balance. And finally, you want to be at the top of the heep, not the middle or bottom. So pick a school where you are more likely to be challenged and REWARDED for hard work and get the honors, while being BALANCED, joining clubs, having some fun and learning to get along with people and doing something for society.</p>
<p>I canât stand high school kids who are all about themselves and their awards, none of which have anything to do with community service, giving back to help others, and just being well rounded kids. I much prefer a kid with a lower gpa/sat, but a BETTER personality, not so narcissistic and who is anxious to make a difference in society by helping others as much as helping themselves. </p>
<p>But every person is different and some gravitate towards schools that are nerd city and some gravitate to schools that more about the social scene or athletic events. </p>
<p>I like being like the three bears: the one in the middle is the best!</p>