Colleges with good music facilities that allow non-majors to participate?

Tufts might be a good fit.

They have a very inclusive music program where over 3000 of the 5000 undergrads participate…

http://as.tufts.edu/music/documents/faqandinfo.pdf

and great performance facilities open to the entire Tufts (and surrounding) community…

http://as.tufts.edu/music/musiccenter/about/overview.htm

and what some say is the best Steinway grand in New England…

http://tuftsjournal.tufts.edu/archive/2007/february/corner/index.shtml

and an interdisciplinary minor in Music Engineering (sponsored by Steinway) with a course in writing music applications…

http://engineering.tufts.edu/me/undergraduate/musicengineering.htm

and alums that have written music applications that have received significant VC funding

https://www.forbes.com/sites/denalitietjen/2015/07/29/cymbal/#43e209bc6c5c