<p>You might read CNN’s Lac Su’s Jan 20 piece on how Asian parents can leave life long scars:</p>
<p>[‘Tiger</a> Mothers’ leave lifelong scars - CNN](<a href=“http://articles.cnn.com/2011-01-20/opinion/lac.su.tiger.mother.scars_1_parenting-stupidity-daughters?_s=PM:OPINION]'Tiger”>http://articles.cnn.com/2011-01-20/opinion/lac.su.tiger.mother.scars_1_parenting-stupidity-daughters?_s=PM:OPINION)</p>
<p>Your father is poisoning your life. Let him know that there are better ways to be a family than to yell at one another. You might also look at Toxic Parents by Susan Forward. </p>
<p>Many, many people take a little extra time to reach their full potential. Work hard but also know that you may need to target yourself a bit to be outstanding (that is, you may not be outstanding in everything – but there will be some areas where you are very strong – focus on those and what makes you happy. That way leads to a happy, strong life.
Good luck</p>