Coming Out in College

<p>Any gay/lesbian/bisexuals here who have decided to come out in college? How did you do it? "Hey, my name is X and I'm gay" isn't exactly how I normally introduce myself!</p>

<p>If you're comming out to a roommate or a 'non-friend' say something like " I don't know if this is going to be a problem, but I'm gay. I just wanted to tell you out of respect for your beliefs...whatever they might be' or something along those lines. That's what my roommate said to me. Hope that helps</p>

<p>Just like your sexual preference on facebook as in indirect way of telling. That's what a guy on my floor did last year (though he was open about his gayness).</p>

<p>Act gay.</p>

<p>Act gay...</p>

<p>Uh...</p>

<p>Haha :D.</p>

<p>While it may seem like a huge deal to tell everyone, it is really not. Most people will not care. We had several gay people in the fraternity i rushed, and it was not even a topic ever. It was a personal choice on their part, everyone knew, and it was left at that.</p>

<p>I changed my sexual preference on Facebook & MySpace. Lame, yeah, but it was effective and easy.</p>

<p>I agree with oxypunk151: don't treat coming out like it's the MOST IMPORTANT THING EVAR!!!!1 Honestly? It isn't. It's a total non-issue. Just act like you've always acted.</p>

<p>Also, please don't try to overcompensate for your lack of security and/or the other campus gheys and/or your years of being in the closet and act like you're in a 24/7 pride parade. You aren't. All you're doing is giving the breeders a bad impression of the rest of us. Thank you.</p>

<p>That's just it...I don't want to introduce myself by saying I'm gay, but I don't want my roommate to be weirded out if it comes up halfway through the year. I'm not exactly a fan of flannel or rainbows.</p>

<p>I was closeted all through highschool except to my closest friends, so I'm just not sure how to go about anything. I think most people knew I was gay, but there was an element of ambiguity that really weirded some people out.</p>

<p>Edit (just read the post above): Also I would like to say that before I came to terms with my sexuality, I acted like I was totally guy crazy. Straight people don't realize it, but they're pretty much walking heterosexuality parades. Girls talk about guys all the time. At work, all my coworkers talk about is this guy is a hottie that, or that guy was nice this. I wish I could talk like that about girls, but I can't, because then people think you are "flaunting" it. Even /I/ feel like I am! Oh well...</p>

<p>Rub butter all over yourself and then post your pictures on myspace and post a link here...not sure if that will help your situation</p>

<p>^Probably not, unless you're a really hot chick and that kind thing does it for you...:D.</p>

<p>feel free to discuss how hot other girls are around guys. And with the roommate, roommates always discuss at the beginning of the year what they should do to alert the other roommate that they have a guy/girl in the room with them. In your case, you should say things along the lines of "what sort of signal should I use to let you know i've got a girl in my bed with me" (this is kinda what a guy would say) now presumably, you're roomie will either question your incorrect noun usage and then you can explain, or will realize that you're a lesbian. Definitely better to be upfront about it.</p>

<p>i wouldnt "come out on facebook" b/c most people dont take that too seriously. I am straight and alot of my girlfriends have facebook details like "we hooked up" and it isnt meant to be serious. </p>

<p>And why does your sexuality have to define you anyways? Although I do understand the need and want to be accepted for who you truly are.</p>

<p>how many of your female friends have "interested in: women" on their pages?</p>

<p>alot of facebook people have like every possible option, but they are not serious. many do not take facebook seriously</p>

<p>Also depends on the university you're at; Berkeley has an enormous homosexual community, and throws awesome drag parties.</p>

<p>Including naked parties, and naked = no clothes or just tiny underwear.</p>

<p>just watch out for O'Reilly Factor producer, Jesse Waters.</p>