<p>I must say that this site is such a spectacular place with so many awesome posts to read from. There are so many advices and ideas that help me make my college decisions. My name is Anh, currently entering my senior year in High School.</p>
<p>Since this forum is also dedicated to High school life, I was just wondering what everyone's opinions would be. I am a gay vietnamese, who already came out to his parents but not to his friends and classmates. Would now be a good time to "expose myself" or should I not worry and come out rather to people in college. It is a difficult task and I am not sure what to do. </p>
<p>If you don't know how to "manage" the whole gay system, I would suggest just not being gay...This would be easier...don't ya think? If you want to be anyways; gradually come out of the "closet"....w/e.</p>
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If you don't know how to "manage" the whole gay system, I would suggest just not being gay...This would be easier...don't ya think? If you want to be anyways; gradually come out of the "closet"....w/e.
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<p>The whole "gay system"? Do not be ignorant... you cannot just stop being gay.</p>
<p>Come out if you feel that you have someone to turn to. You must realize that you may get some hatred aimed at you but its the first step to being comfortable in your life.</p>
<p>thesloc, you are a truly ignorant individual. You make being gay sound like a conspiracy. "Gay System?" You have a lot of nerve. And as for telling the OP to try to stop being gay, this just proves your stupidity. There's no button to push that makes someone stop being gay.</p>
<p>To the OP: since you are a senior, and you will most likely not see the majority of these people again, I wouldn't worry about telling them. Perhaps you can just tell your close friends. In college, I would think there would be much more acceptance due to the large numbers of diverse people. Perhaps then would be a more comfortable time. Good luck with the decision you make!</p>
<p>If you were in my school, where for some reason its "cool" to be gay, u'd have no problem. its strange.... because in my middle school u would get beaten up</p>
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being a homosexual is a choice. You are not predisposed to it. You can change.
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Perhaps you can change, but I'm sure it takes a lot of work to re-wire your brain. But I'm confident that being gay is not a concious choice. Where did you get YOUR rational?</p>
<p>Donkey, I say it depends on how the people are where you live. You may truly regret coming out or you may be happy and feel it was a good decision.</p>
<p>well, our school's valedictorian of 2004 "came out" his freshman year at yale. quite a shock to us back at HS, but not so much hatred.</p>
<p>i suppose it depends on your school. mine is very friendly to gays, so it would be ok to "come out" during senior year here. i guess people back home felt more alienated finding this fact out about our val from his facebook during college. although if you live in a very conservative part of the country, you should probably wait.</p>
<p>and to wabash and ilovemath and thesloc- i used to think homosexuality was a choice. until i actually met a homosexual. if you know somebody who is truly gay, you would realize that homosexuality is not a conscious choice (but perhaps sexuality can be alterred by what you're doing or looking at while you "relieve" yourself: "operant conditioning").</p>
<p>1st - i think being gay is a choice. well, if its not a choice to be gay, its a choice to act on your gayness. you get my drift.</p>
<p>2nd - i love gay people. so fashionable.</p>
<p>3rd - only tell close friends now.. it would be silly to expose yourself to so much criticism and harassment. Apparently you really need to get this out though, so talk to your best friends and let them know..but dont like put it on a bulletin board. College would be the best place to show yourself for who you have CHOSEN to be. :) good luck!</p>
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1st - i think being gay is a choice. well, if its not a choice to be gay, its a choice to act on your gayness. you get my drift.
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yeah i think alot of misconceptions arise from this. but like for example catholicism opposes acting on homosexual tendencies, not homosexuals. its akin to premarital sex.</p>
<p>actually now i read your location in massachusetts: go ahead and "come out." definitely to close friends. theyre not conservative enough to lynch you, right?</p>
<p>To me, being homosexual is the same as having an eating disorder. There is no "choice." Do you honestly think that for all the crap homosexual people get in this culture, they would CHOOSE to be that way? There is nothing wrong with it either. I have guy friends who are gay, and they are the funniest, nicest people I've ever met; they're a nice break from the "straight" jerks I encounter on a daily basis. </p>
<p>No one ever understands these things unless they experience it, and that's why my reference to the ED thing. It is incredibly hard to look at oneself in the mirror and think, "Good Lord I'm fat," but that is exactly how it feels. No matter how thin one is, there is an overwhelming desire to pick away at oneself and try to lose weight, and believe you me, it is a vicious cycle because losing that weight feels very good, but never good enough. I always want to scream at my ignorant friends when they comment on the intelligence of girls who are anorexic. They have no idea what it feels like. But that's just my diatribe:D</p>
<p>and to wabash and ilovemath and thesloc- i used to think homosexuality was a choice. until i actually met a homosexual. if you know somebody who is truly gay, you would realize that homosexuality is not a conscious choice (but perhaps sexuality can be alterred by what you're doing or looking at while you "relieve" yourself: "operant conditioning").
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<p>An0nym0u5,</p>
<p>I used to think that way too, then i meet AND BECAME FRIENDS with a bisexual and today i still think it wrong. Homosexuality, bisexuality, and Lesbianism are all lifestyle choices which are detrumental to worls society. I believe in equal treatment for all, and not special rights for a few. I believe in loving my neighbor, but part of that love means not condoning detrimental personal and social behavior.</p>
<p>How would you really know if it is a choice or not if you are not gay? Yeah im sure every gay man really wants to be gay... you know with all of the rights and respect America gives them... CMON! Its such a cop out to say that being homosexual is a concious choice just because that is what religious society has been telling you all since you were little. If YOU all had gay friends and gay relatives and actually communicated with gay people then maybe you would understand... Isnt this board supposed to be intelligent?</p>