<p>
Actually, as I have said, I would have no problem with a gay roommate. I’m simply defending people concerned about it because I understand why they’re concerned and don’t see it as fear or ignorance or hate.</p>
<p>
Yeah, probably. If I was gay, I sure as hell wouldn’t want an anti-gay roommate.</p>
<p>
*Viva la Revoluci</p>
<p>
… really?</p>
<p>
horrible reason - you’re assuming all gay people have different interests from you?
well, at least it’s a better reason than
</p>
<p>ok. gay people share the same DNA with you (it ain’t genetic). have the same XY chromosomes as you. grew up like you. ate the same breakfast foods, watched the same saturday morning cartoons, went to the same schools, learned the same alphabet, played the same video games, drive the same car. ****, there are identical twins where one is gay and the other is straight. they are no different than you, other than that you like girls, they like boys.
its alright, humans have a biological aversion to differences and unfamiliarity. you can admit that you have an internal fear or dislike of gays, instead of making up all these pathetic excuses and claiming you support gay unions (I like how you didn’t use “marriage” lolol) and trying not to look bad. If these claims were really true, and you really aren’t homophobic, the only reason I can think of why you would not like a gay roommate, is that you’re a pervert and need a friend around while you sleep to dream about girls with you</p>
<p>
ok… if you say so… then all I said above is directed to those people with the same illogical reasoning as you. but then again, if you think like that, i’m going to go ahead and group you with those people
also, your reasoning blows</p>
<p>rymd, as I said, I don’t mind having a gay roommate. I’m merely defending people who are being attacked far too much for valid concerns.</p>
<p>And evidence does point to homosexuality being genetic (not a “choice”), though I really don’t know how that comes into it.</p>
<p>
Wow… go calm down, buddy.</p>
<p>Wait, why did you quote me in the last part? <em>confused</em> I AM gay. And most gay guys I know (including myself) don’t bother with having crushes on straight guys, since it’s not going to go anywhere and it’s a waste of time. Time I’d rather spend pursuing gay guys. I said that to point out that having a gay roommate will not (in most cases) result in them having a crush on the straight one, so there’s nothing to worry about having a gay roommate.</p>
<p>ETA: Referring to rymd’s post.</p>
<p>
Seems like he accidentally quoted you when he meant to quote something of mine.</p>
<p><a href=“I%20like%20how%20you%20didn’t%20use%20%22marriage%22%20lolol”>quote</a>
[/quote]
I said unions because I think the best way to end the damn controversy is to make all of them (gay or straight) “unions” in the eyes of the government (one citizen plus one citizen, regardless of gender) and just not have “marriage” be an official term. That way, the people who keep arguing about definitions might actually stop, and anyone who wants to say they’re married can. </p>
<p>But that’s really neither here nor there in this discussion.</p>
<p>
Because simply stating my reasoning as illogical is far superior than actually proving it to be such.</p>
<p>
Thank you for the gripping analysis.</p>
<p>I got quoted and it was taken out of context:
I just wouldn’t want to room with someone who was likely to have gay pride posters everywhere the same way I’d be uncomfortable with someone having pro-life posters everywhere. I am both pro-life and for legalizing gay marriage, but both situations would make me uncomfortable. I have gay friends, but it’s just part of them. Not their number one identifying factor. I don’t know if this makes sense at all. </p>
<p>I wouldn’t want an extremely out lesbian roommate (especially if they where likely to pull the homophobic card if I asked them to stop with PDA).
I wouldn’t want an extremely christian roommate (even though I’m christian, especially if they where likely to judge me and condemn me for my decisions).
I wouldn’t want a crazy partier roommate (even though I party, especialy if they brought guys back all them time). </p>
<p>Anything in the extreme in my opinion is not someone I could room with. So my advice to the OP if it’s a huge part of your life, you’d get offended not being able to display PDA, or a good portion of your activities revolve around your sexuality. You need to tell them before school starts. It will help make things less awkward. It would suck having a roommate switch rooms before school even starts, but better then dealing with someone who wouldn’t treat you right/would be uncomfortable. If it’s not a big deal to you or your not super out then you don’t have to!</p>
<p>I hate the fact you have to be worried about this. I am sorry about that and don’t think it’s right, but I’m just being honest!</p>
<p>This thread is still going on?</p>
<p>Okay… way too many ignorant posts for me to quote them all, so I’ll just send out a blanket statement to anyone who thinks it’s okay to feel uncomfortable rooming with a homosexual:</p>
<p>If you’re a roommate with someone, they should not be seeing any more of your body than if you were to, for example, go to a water park (if you are getting completely naked with your roommate in the room, then I doubt a heterosexual would want to room with you.) Is it okay for you to go to the manager of the water park and say “excuse me, I request that I not have to be in the presence of homosexuals; it makes me uncomfortable. It’s not that I’m homophobic, I just don’t feel comfortable being around them shirtless”? Maybe homophobic isn’t the right word, but to switch roommates because he/she is a homosexual is unbelievably irrational; in my opinion, if you are that irrational, you have some growing up to do before you enter college. If the whole lack-of-clothing thing isn’t what bothers you, and it’s just the idea of being in the room with them, then I’m sorry, but you’re homophobic. You’re going to have coworkers one day who will be homosexuals, and you’re going to spend a hell of a lot more time in the same room with them than you would with a roommate. </p>
<p>To long, didn’t read: Grow up</p>
<p>
I would say it’s a much higher chance that you get a straight roommate with habits that clash with yours than a gay roommate who is attracted to you. If you’re really that keen on playing it safe, do us all a favor and get a single.</p>
<p>
Um, this thread is 18 hours old…</p>
<p>Um, time isn’t the issue, content vs OP is,
and um, due to the sensitive nature of topics such as these, they tend to be closed very quickly.
uhh um, Maturity of the participants is an issue as well. (Take a look at the tags)</p>
<p>
What…?</p>
<p>
[5</a> years without being closed](<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/89948-gay-roommate-20.html]5”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/89948-gay-roommate-20.html)
[About</a> 15 days before it was closed](<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1108363-another-gay-roommate-thread.html]About”>Another "gay roommate" thread? - College Life - College Confidential Forums)
This thread still deals with roommate issues and has no reason to be shut down.</p>
<p>
What…?</p>
<p>In response to JeSuis. Not everyone of us is ignorant. I was raised by two lesbians. Trust me I’m not ignorant or homophobic. The naked issue isn’t my issue, everyone has different reasons for their opinions.</p>
<p>I don’t call people uncomfortable with homosexuality ignorant per se, but their misconceptions are ignorant in my own opinion. Whether or not you are comfortable with a gay individual should depend upon actually knowing him/her as a person, rather than generalizing on what you assume a sexual orientation is bound to do.</p>
<p>@sewlovely: As I said to Dolorous, there are a lot worse (and more common) issues which can arise besides your roommate having gay pride. Honestly, of all the gay people I know, not a single one hangs up gay pride posters, but I know plenty of conservatives who will sport their “Yes on 8” bumper stickers (not sure if anyone outside of California knows what that prop was.) If your roommate comes out to you immediately, it would almost certainly be out of courtesy or nervousness of getting an ultra-conservative roommate, not a gay pride thing. If you opted out of rooming with her because she came out to you too quickly, you are either loosing a genuinely nice person who was trying to be courteous and respect your opinion on the issue, or you’re going to solidify her fear that heterosexuals are not going to respect/accept her. No matter who your roommate is, she is likely going to have strong opinions on some issue, but in all likelihood, she will not be in-your-face about it; the same goes for a homosexual with or without gay pride. I’m not sure if you understand how complex of an issue this really is.</p>
<p>
While that’s great, it really isn’t viable proof of your acceptance/tolerance. “Not everyone of us is racist. I was raised by two black parents. Trust me I’m not racist. Everyone has different reasons for not wanting a black roommate.”</p>
<p>
I agree with this.</p>
<p>
That’s a terrible analogy. You were ahead until you used it.</p>
<p>*“Not everyone of us is racist. I was raised by two black parents. Trust me I’m not racist. Everyone has different reasons for not wanting a black roommate who is always taking about Black Pride events.” *
Yeah, that’s not so bad, IMO.</p>
<p>How is that a terrible analogy? Whatever the odds are (likely minuscule), you were afraid of that slight chance that your roommate would be attracted to you. It is also a fact that African Americans commit more violent crimes than Caucasians; am I allowed to take that statistic and use it to justify switching to a white roommate? Plenty of people would feel legitimately uncomfortable having a black roommate, but we would all scoff at them and tell them to grow up or get a single. In 50 years when homosexuality is more widely accepted, I guarantee you that analogy will be viewed as adequate.</p>
<p>Okay, now that that’s all out, you should know that my analogy was primarily trying to combat that “My sister/parent/brother/friend is ________, so obviously I’m not bigoted” statement thrown around all the time.</p>
<p>And honestly, if my arguments were legitimate and made sense, it’s pretty foolish to now say they’re negated simply because I gave a (in your opinion) bad analogy at the end. But like it or not, discrimination based on race or sexuality is equally irrational.</p>
<p>Part of growing up and becoming a well-educated adult is learning when you’re being irrational; not wanting a gay roommate for any of the reasons I’ve seen on this thread or anywhere have been irrational. If your roommate does become attracted to you, then you have a reason to switch rooms (and if your roommate is rational, (s)he should agree that a room change would be beneficial.) But a simple “what if” scenario you’ve created is not a reason to switch rooms. If you’re going to “what if” about a gay roommate to the point of switching rooms, you better “what if” about a straight roommate to the point of wanting a single; otherwise, I must say you are discriminating against gays.</p>
<p>I have to ask: What would you guys think about having a roommate of the opposite sex? More importantly, would you call other people ignorant/narrow-minded if they felt uncomfortable with a roommate of the opposite sex?</p>
<p>I don’t understand why so many straight people are convinced that all gay people are like, in love with them or something. Chances are, they’re probably not attracted to you in any way, shape or form - they know you’re straight…they’re not trying to “convert” you like so many people think. Gay people are everywhere. They are human beings. They don’t have this “agenda”. Their “agenda” is like everyone else’s…especially in college. Get up, go to class, do homework, socialize. I can understand if you don’t want your roommate making out with their boyfriend/girlfriend when you’re around, but I don’t want a straight roommate doing that either. You should set up ground rules about that regardless of orientation. Anyway, you’re going to have to deal with a gay person at some point in your life. Some people are gay, get over it. It’s not that big of a deal. There are so many different kinds of gay people, just like there are so many different kinds of straight people. Some gay guys/chicks are promiscuous, some aren’t. Same goes for us straight people. Not all gay men are the stereotypical “fabuuuuloussss!!!” type we see all the time. The only reason people are uncomfortable around gay people is because they have these preconceived notions that all gay men/women act the same, i.e. are promiscuous and want to sleep with every male/female they see whether they are straight or not, or are flamboyant/butch. Some people in this thread need to stop being so ignorant…ay dios mio.</p>