<p>BritMom...many schools give out the class ranking once a year during high school. If your child chooses,they can go pick it up. Some probably don't do this, but if you talk to counselor you should get an answer.
For information purposes...at our senior high school (11/12 only)...we are on a 4 point scale with the extra point for honors and AP classes so you can have over a 4 point average. Our top 10% (usually graduating class is about 1300) are all over 4 point average. My son has a 3.82 and he is just in top 25%. Obviously, it just depends on your district and school and the counselor should be able to guide you.</p>
<p>NMR - It scares me enough just thinking that in 5 months I won't know where she is - may have days when I don't hear from her - won't see her asleep safely every night in her bed - won't know if she is eating right - and all this on a safe rural college campus. And meanwhile have to deal with the media reporting every kidnapping or shooting at college campuses. I think that is all the transition I need to deal with in the next year.</p>
<p>MOAP, ditto on this end. I am far from an over protective parent, but it will definitely be weird/disconcerting not to see her every day. On the other hand, I am really excited and thrilled for her to take this next step in her life's journey. Thank goodness for cell phones ... we won't have to wait for letters, and we moms and dads can post here still and commiserate!</p>
<p>MoaP, I'm right there with you. My D is not ready to leave home. Two weeks ago I put some pasta in the oven for her dinner while I went out for the evening. She called me 90 minutes later and said it still wasn't hot. I was apoplectic and I couldn't even speak to her! Completely irrational, I know...but if she can't figure out how to heat up pasta, how one earth will she be able manage at college?</p>
<p>But this same kid, at 14, spent days on her own wandering around London, navigating the different tube stops, figuring out the currency...so I hope that when she HAS to look after herself, she'll do a better job than she does when I'm around as her back-up.</p>
<p>Skwidjymom, LOL! Thanks for the story. I love it. Somehow, I feel sure that a kid who can navigate London on her lonesome will quickly learn to turn the oven on to heat up her dinner! :)</p>
<p>HELLO LADIES!!!! My very self sufficient daughter does the SAME THING!! This really made me laugh...same conversation here all the time about how are you going to survive if you can't do these simple things. Then I remembered....THEY ARE ACTRESSES!!!!! </p>
<p>PS...Yes I found a CC thread for empty nesters - see you there in 5 months LOL</p>
<p>I will try to avoid the empty nest by remarrying a few weeks after my D graduates high school!</p>
<p>And if you think you're all going crazy with the college stuff, try planning a wedding and selling your house at the same time. It seemed like a good idea at the time.....</p>
<p>WOW! Congratulations and I wish you a long and happy marriage. </p>
<p>I haven't found anyone I love enough to increase my FAFSA and EFC so I think I'll stay single.</p>
<p>MoaP, that was a consideration...but God bless him, he's helping!</p>
<p>I still have a 13 year old in "the nest" so it won't be empty yet. However, the time is going to go quickly before I have to figure out college admissions/audition stuff for dance ... the younger one is a dancer. Yee ha! I just cannot help but wonder who the heck is going to pay for my assisted living/nursing home care when I am older ... an actor and a dancer? What are the odds of having two pursue non, um, lucrative fields? I blame myself for not enrolling them in soccer ....:)</p>
<p>I just keep telling my D to marry well!</p>
<p>My D is applying as a transfer student. I never thought I would survive her leaving home. Guess what... I did! It was actually really nice! Now she is home going to community college as she auditions/applies to other MT programs. We have a great time together, but she is more mature and responsible; something that happened at college!!! :-) </p>
<p>The downside is that when she leaves this time, I will really be losing a best friend again!!! :-(</p>
<p>I totally relate. It's so much harder when you like each other as well as love each other and are buddies. I think this would be a lot easier if I had one of those kids that came home and shut themselves up in their room and only came out to eat instead of this vibrant in-your-face friend of mine. </p>
<p>On the other hand she was looking at college websites and telling me I had to fly to orientations, welcome weeks, freshman parent's week, parent's week plus of course all her performances. I'm going to have to take a loan on the house just for all the trips she has planned! I might as well move to her college state. Plus she has it planned I will be spending my days cooking all her favorite meals and shipping them in dry ice to her dorm. YEA RIGHT!</p>
<p>Has anyone who has already had a kid leave for college experienced a phenomenon (which I have read about) where the kid who has suddenly been a buddy and friend (as well as a daughter or son) suddenly turns evil the summer between high school and college? I recall reading a fascinating (and scary) thread on the Parents Forum here on CC about how some kids seem to get very testy, angry, etc. the summer after high school and how psychologists posit that it's a way of distancing themselves from parents to make separation easier. I truly don't want that to happen in my house .... I would really, really like to enjoy this last summer.</p>
<p>That happened to my sister. Her son was 'the devil' for about 2 years (and I am sure he had a very descriptive word for her!!). Now they are getting along beautifully. There is nothing to say that it won't happen with my D when she goes off to her next school, but we went through a tough 6 months during High School instead. (BTW, I don't know if gender effects this attitude or its timing!!...Sorry guys!!!)</p>
<p>I have never read that or seen that but I can see where that could happen as a protective device. That would be a heartbreaker. Hopefully if anyone saw that happening they could sit down and point out what is going on and that the reason behind it was love and work through it.</p>
<p>My girlfriend always had a pretty close relationship with her D and yet the summer before she went away to college, she turned into the "only came out to eat" kid MomOfAPrincess referred to in the post above. She barely spoke and always seemed angry or upset about something. Most, if not all of her free time was spent with her friends. This kid was a great student and it was only logical that she would go on to attend the big name college she was accepted to. It turned out that she really did not want to go, but felt if she would have said something that she was letting everybody down. She has since changed schools and majors and is back on great terms with her parents. I guess seeing this happen first hand, it did make me pause and think about where my D sees herself vs. where "I would want her to go to college". It has been hard and at the same time reassuring to witness her jump towards independence from junior to senior year. I am really hoping for a fun "last" summer.</p>
<p>NotMamaRose, I definitely had that happen. My child got very argumentive the summer before college. We did not get along. We argued about everything. Mainly because they were trying to show that they didn't need me anymore and that they wanted their independence. It worked. I couldn't wait for them to go off to college. I was counting down the days. If they hadn't gone to college I would have kicked them out of the house. My child is an excellent student and a great kid, but we couldn't say anything to each other without a fight.<br>
Now that they have been in college for 6 months, they come home and no arguing. They are a new person. College has definitely changed them for the good. And we now get along great.</p>
<p>And let's not even talk about that first summer home from college. Whew, I didn't think I would survive that. But I did with our first, second, and third, child. Now the fourth is off this fall. It should be interesting. Four in college at the same time. At least the oldest is in grad school and pretty much on her own. Not sure what we were thinking. Ha Ha.</p>