UVA and Virginia Tech instate are both very good options. If you get merit aid somewhere like Texas A & M that puts the cost below them, that gives you other choices. If your parents are hesitant about paying more than your instate options, that is not uncommon. Unless your parents are affluent. But even if they are, you say they are “hesitant” to pay for a $50,000 + school, so they are concerned about cost at some level.