UVA and Virginia Tech instate are both very good options. If you get merit aid somewhere like Texas A & M that puts the cost below them, that gives you other choices. If your parents are hesitant about paying more than your instate options, that is not uncommon. Unless your parents are affluent. But even if they are, you say they are “hesitant” to pay for a $50,000 + school, so they are concerned about cost at some level.
VT has an excellent reputation for engineering and cs and job placements. Plus everyone seems to love it there. If you get in, I would only go out of state if it was significantly cheaper after including travel costs or if you can’t stand the thought of going to college with a bunch of kids from your high school.
@Hippo21 At schools the size of VT and UVa, it is certainly easy enough to avoid people from your high school if that is a concern.
Stay in TAMU for undergraduate study. Enrich your CS by visiting github, To be successful in CS depends on yourself, instead of school.
Just looking at the universities you listed, UIUC has the better CS program (IMO). The money dimension is a complicating factor. Those trade-offs, only you and your parents can make.