<p>I can be a little competitive sometimes. Ok, maybe a lot competitive, but when i see other ppl around me doing better i have this certain drive to do better (in academics) and work hard.
Because of this, i often have sort of a silent, competitive relationship w/ really good friends. Is this a bad thing?
I get really upset when i get a bad grade, but even more so when i m just a few pts. away from getting the best grade. </p>
<p>Do you compete w/ your friends (in school)?</p>
<p>i do. oh god sometimes i wish i was always better than them. say...10 points? i'm a horrible person. if it was just a normal friend asking me for help on studying for a test, i would almost brush 'em off. but when it comes to best of friends, i DO help them...but there is a silent competition. at least on my side</p>
<p>I do, and I think lots of other students do too. Silently competing with them is a smart thing to do.</p>
<p>Not really. My friends are so random and across the board...</p>
<p>I try not to, because it really doesn't matter.</p>
<p>i do but im friends with all the super smart kids so it makes it hard</p>
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<p>It's kinda funny because I usually end up developing crushes on the people who are competitive with me. Or maybe it was just that one cute kid. Or that other cute kid... :)</p>
<p>uh no. you should probably resolve it. if you feel bad enough to go on a website, it isn't as silent and innocent as you probably are making it seem. Do you feel bad when you do this? (like, how going out with an ex is only bad if you feel bad/guilty/don't want to tell your bf/gf)</p>
<p>If instead it is a friendly thing, like you compete with friend, that's good. Pushing each other to your best = good.</p>
<p>You certainly can compete in the right way. Pushing each other a bit only makes both of you better students. Try to remember at some point you'll go your separate ways to college and have each other to look back at.</p>
<p>Both my kids were good friends with most of the other vals at their HS. Alot of times they hung out together, mainly because they "got" each other. They were smart enough to see the big picture of there's enough to go around and the friendly competition helped more of them get to the places they wanted.</p>
<p>One thing, you should only get angry at yourself when a friend beats your score, not the friend. Your still responsible for your score, not the other guy.</p>
<p>My friends and I compete sometimes compete to the point where we exchange death threats. But that's all in good fun -- or I hope so...</p>
<p>My best friend's and her other best friend (not me) compete like mad. They use her brother and I to vent things that we both know they'd rather tell each other, but can't because of the competition. It's like they're enemies who are forced to be friends, except no one's forcing them! It's totally dumb.</p>
<p>I don't really compete, but a friend of mine is trying to silently compete with me. She's always casually trying to glance at my grades, will keep a good grade on her desk for an unusually long amount of time, etc. It basically just annoys the crap out of me.</p>
<p>Hah, my best friend is an underachiever who pulls Bs and Cs in Honors classes...</p>
<p>But we do have a slight competition when it comes to art. :eek:</p>
<p>I have no problem with competition in good nature...the kind where you push each other, but will always lend a helping hand. I see this most often in sports, like in XC...yes, your teammates want to beat you, but they will run with you and train with you, and encourage you during a race to keep up with them. I think athletes especially carry over healthy competition into the classroom...I have an XC teammate in my math class, and she will be ****ed if she scores lower than me, and try to one up me next time...but she'll also explain something if I don't understand it, or if I missed class give me notes and keep me up to speed. I do the same for her.</p>
<p>The funny thing is, she isn't even really a close friend of mine. My closest friends are all about "beating" me. They always want to see my grade, and gloat when they get a few points higher than me (rarely). They are so competitive, that they won't help me out if I have nothing at the moment to offer them, and they make a huge stink about giving me notes if I miss class. They will "forget" to tell me about quizzes, assignments, etc. I have a feeling if I scored lower than them most of the time, they would have no problem helping me out. I don't know what it is...I think it's just complete jealousy, and it makes me wonder what kind of friends they really are. </p>
<p>I think that kind of competition is disgusting and spiteful. It's ok to be competitive with your friends. It is not ok to hope they do worse than you (rather than just hoping you will get an A), to not want to help them out, and to in general be petty.</p>
<p>I did last year, and its horrible. Eck. Turning your back on the world, jealousy, hate, envy.....EW. Just stay out of all that. A little competition can't hurt, but too much just stinks.</p>
<p>Let me guess... you are Asian.</p>
<p>Calm down, your parents won't ACTUALLY disown you if you aren't valedictorian.</p>
<p>^ Let me guess... you're going by stereotypes.</p>
<p>Also, OP didn't mention parents at all-people can be competitive w/o parental pressure. yay self motivation.</p>
<p>Though anyways, healthy competition is always good, unhealthy pointless competition, on the other hand, is basically what I just named it. Therefore, just be careful of that line- you are Friends with your friends, don't make them enemies in a stupid war over grades. =) so calm down.</p>
<p>I think stealing notes and homework is going a bit too far, but competition produces the best in people. </p>
<p>In my high school, we have our val as of junior year, who is incredibly competitive and secretive, who everyone wants to take down. She did really well as a frosh, but now is struggling to keep up, and will hopefully be passed by at least three of us...</p>
<p>wow, silver how can you NOT pass her with your grades, if she is struggling? lol I saw all 100s and 1 99 on that other thread =p</p>
<p>A really good friend and I are tied for Rank 1 as of the first semester of Junior year, and it looks like our schedules are going to be exactly the same next year. It's more of a struggle for him than it is for me, so I think of it as pushing him to do what I know he can do instead of what he wants to do. =)</p>