<p>I’ve known this dude since we were in high school (we’re in college, he is a year older than me.) We’re both competitive, and for a good while he didn’t really like me because I kind of showed him his place. That changed my junior/his senior year. We were starting to get along, we found out we weren’t that different from each other, liked some of the same stuff, been to the same city over the summer, etc…….then he found out I liked one of his friends. He became friends with one of my friends and she told me everything he said about the other guy (none of it was good, all of it was true.) Then he told me he was “fine” and that he “didn’t really care.” I was a little confused about why he would care in the first place, but was too angry at myself for having liked what turned out to be a loser and let it go.<br>
A few months later, I update my Facebook page with a book I had read and found out he has done the same a month later. I write this off as coincidence, until he watches us play districts and someone mentions the book and he looks my way. He also looks my way and follows me around for a good twenty minutes when he realizes that I have cool sunglasses.<br>
When I came to college and he saw me at practice the first day, I looked terrible----and he still greeted me happily. Every time something was mentioned that we had in common he looked my way. And smiled. A lot.<br>
He is part of a comedy club here (the club’s performances are good, and I’ve been to plenty of the shows.) Every time I go to one of those performances and he realizes I’m there, he looks my way for longer than normal---not in a disgusting way, though he’s sneaked a cheeky glance at my lady lumps once. At a fundraiser the club had for the American Cancer Society, I thought I could stop the awkwardness by just going up to talk to him for a few minutes. He was so nervous when he was talking to me, even if it was only for five minutes---but happy I called his name, took a picture, etc. (Keep in mind he’s perfectly responsive online when I talk to him, very nice even, though sometimes he doesn’t really know or care what I’m talking about.) But when I go back to my friends across the room for the remaining two hours, he stares at me…for the remaining two hours. A month later, the club has its regular performance; the last of the semester. I go, and this time he tries to be a little more discreet, but I can still catch him since he's not performing…
Is there any explanation for this? I’m confused.</p>
<p>Umm…he likes you? That’s pretty much the only explanation I would get out of it.</p>
<p>From the way you just wrote that, it definitely sounds like YOU think he likes you. Are you looking for confirmation?</p>
<p>You know he likes you. The question is what you should do about it, and we can’t answer that for you.</p>
<p>I love hearing crush stories like these…:D</p>
<p>The question is, do you like him back? You should test out whether he likes you or not. Next time you are talking, flirt a little. Brush your hands against his. Lean in close and linger your gaze on him for longer than normal, see how he reacts. If he likes you, his reactions will show.</p>
<p>So stalkers don’t behave like this?</p>
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<p>What’s the difference? He could both be a stalker and like you at the same time. I was personally in that situation when I had an unhealthy obsession with a girl back in high school. Looking back on it today, I was hella creepy.</p>
<p>In any case, I think it’s pretty clear that he likes you. Otherwise, the nervousness wouldn’t be there. IMO, he just needs a little more tact.</p>
<p>If you like him back, I think you should make the first move at this point. Why don’t you ask him out on a date? In this time and day, it’s OK for the girl to do it, and it’s OK to be overt. Might be relieving to settle it once and for all.</p>
<p>He probably wuvs you, but how do you know that he is staring at you for two hours? Clearly this isn’t one sided, and you’re staring at him too because that’s the only way to know that he’s looking at you. (from this specific case)</p>
<p>Maybe it’s just a coincidence, your eyes meet every time you look at each other because both of you are thinking, “is he/she looking at me”, <em>both look</em> yes.</p>
<p>Be careful though about what your seeing in your mind and what youre actually seeing. Guys stare at girls all the time, whether theyre just friends, strangers to each other or something more. A lot of the time, unless someone makes a move, you will just continually stare at each other. So, if you like the guy, start flirting with him, don’t just look at him. Playfully touch his arm and compliment him, but in a subtle way. </p>
<p>You could maybe do with another perspective. Do you have a friend that could watch how he acts around you and see whether he is staring at you or whether he is feeling your gaze and staring back.</p>
<p>Don’t think about things too much. Let it flow. The fun is in the chase :D. In this case though, maybe up the flirting or it might take months! x</p>
<p>jesus christ do you people not know how to use the “enter/return” button?</p>
<p>A girl once came up to me at a party and asked me my name, for seemingly no reason I could think of.</p>
<p>She tried dancing with me and later in the evening planted a kiss on me. She insisted on following me back to my room even. I couldn’t figure out why… my room is a mess and not very interesting — and what would we do there at this hour?</p>
<p>Anyway, we just ended up walking and talking for several hours. After staring into my eyes seemingly the whole time, she paused and then asked me if I had condoms on me. Condoms??? What does my concern with STDS and pregnancy have to do with the conversation at hand??? I told her I was tired and returned to my room alone. She looked disappointed.</p>
<p>A few days later, I notice she’s friended me on facebook. She sent me a message that says, “I know this may be weird, I don’t know if you remember me but… I like you.”</p>
<p>So my question to everyone here is… does she like me?</p>
<p>But more importantly, aren’t I awesome? :D</p>
<p>Actually dude - you’re a loser.</p>
<p>Why didn’t you seal the deal? Afraid you couldn’t get it up?</p>
<p>^^Sounds to me more like the girl is awesome for having balls. You seem somewhat clueless, though…</p>
<p>He’s joking, idiots! I thought it was pretty funny…</p>
<p>me too, also thought it was funny lol</p>