<p>So this boy asks me to go with him for lunch at a restaurant. I don't really know him that well, but we're on friendly terms. I think it's because he knows I'm transferring, but even then, why would he feel the need to say farewell like this, right? Would you consider this a date?</p>
<p>Don't overanalyze this situation. Just go and have lunch with him! :)</p>
<p>Well, hopefully, this person I'm dating won't have a problem with it.</p>
<p>This is stupid of me, but I'm actually kinda nervous! I think I made him feel guilty because he knows I like him, but I don't think he has ever liked me.
This time, he asked me saying he'll be free any time I want.</p>
<p>He turned me down before. I created this group for people to go "coffeeshop hopping" (that's what I called it) where we go to different coffeeshops around the city as a way to "study" and get to know different neighborhoods and meet people. When I invited him, it had like 60 members... he declined my invite probably thinking I wouldn't notice but I did, and he explained himself saying he didn't want to over-commit to different things.</p>
<p>It went really well, you guys. I swear I feel like a teenage girl right now...
I'm still not sure if it's a date, though.
Considering he paid for me before I even got a chance to offer, I'm really starting to think so. I was taken aback and told him I'll treat him next time, and he said definitely. What do you guys think? Is he just playing games with me?</p>
<p>Well if you are dating someone, you should probably break it off with that person before you get involved with this guy...</p>
<p>But I'm not even sure if he's dating me. I said yes right away because he had always classified himself as straight (thinking this was only a friendship thing), but perhaps he's really not.</p>
<p>He's definitely not straight if he asked you out for lunch AND paid for you. I'm straight and I would never "treat" one of my buddies to lunch.</p>
<p>^^^Exactly, I have known my friends since childhood and I've never "treated" them to lunch, unless they were EXTREMELY broke, starving, and/or promised to pay me back. I only pay for my friends that are girls.</p>
<p>wow, are you serious? I have to settle this quick then...</p>
<p>also, why wouldn't you pay for your guy friends?</p>
<p>well, it's gay. And I don't mean that in the degrading sense. It literally would be the gay thing to do.</p>
<p>not even for a farewell gift? actually, in my case, the school I'm transferring to is just 8 train stops away so we could still see each other if we want to. but it's still a farewell because I'm officially leaving the school, and it'll be harder to see each other.</p>
<p>I'm flabbergasted by this gesture. Never saw it coming at all. He's this party-going jock and I'm a non-partying uptight nerd. Our circle of friends don't overlap either. I just hope I'm not misinterpreting this.</p>
<p>Oh yeah, why is it considered gay in the first place?</p>
<p>cause straight guys don't ask each other out to lunch and pay for each other. That is just fact.</p>
<p>^lmao Hahahahahahahahahahaha</p>
<p>^^^
Exactly. It would make me feel uncomfortable to even take my BEST guy friend out for lunch and pay for him. Its just an unspoken form of pure gayness. Straight guys usually NEVER do that, unless the guy is real sensitive and caring. Which is also kind of feminine.</p>
<p>Now, I'm not sure whether I should ask my new roommate out to lunch/dinner before move in...I gather I shouldn't? I want to meet him though!</p>
<p>Dude, seriously. Straight guys don't plan lunch dates. You simply say, "Yo dawg let's grab some food." Scratch your nuts as you say it for good measure.</p>
<p>(Im a girl) I have a friend that I go for coffee with. He and I are completely on the friend shelf. But he tends to pay for me, before I get the chance. I dont consider us dating.</p>
<p>Well that's different, tdanielle, because he's one of those guys that pays for girls just because they're girls (I tend not to like them).</p>
<p>Well, CCRunner, how exactly am I supposed to ask him? We haven't met... I could contact him only by email. If I say "hey, do you want to go somewhere for lunch?" then wouldn't that sound like a date according to what you're saying?
Oh yeah, I don't say dawg and I don't scratch my nuts. I don't understand.</p>