<p>Oh dear, I did not mean to post that long post twice! Perhaps a moderator could delete one.</p>
<p>Compmom, when considering the academic aspect, we insisted that she be able to complete all the AP and honors classes online that she would have taken if she’d remained in a traditional school. She was able to do that. </p>
<p>We thought we’d pretty much covered the academic bases, but as she is our oldest, we really didn’t know all that went into college applications. Now that our second is a rising senior (who has stayed in traditional school), I can see where DD missed out on a few crucial things for applying to the top tier schools. For instance, she went her freshman year to her home school—a very large school (3200 kids) that takes awhile to get the teachers familiar with the students. In fact, unless the student takes a less popular language (such as Latin), she would never repeat a teacher in the entire four years. As a serious dancer, she did not participate in extra-curriculars at school, so she did not have that forum for making those teacher recommendation contacts. </p>
<p>At her second public school (residential situation), the school was about half the size of her home school, but she was recognized as part of the ballet residency. The teachers knew her a little bit, but again, without extra-curricular participation, not so much. The head of guidance counseling, however, did come to know her and might have been a good contact in that regard. </p>
<p>As for the online year, her teachers never met her and only a few actually had reason to talk to her on the phone (which they were very willing to do). She was only in that program one year, so really not much time to really get to know her. She was a very dependable and easy student, so there was little contact other than the actual assignments. She typically completed her courses several months ahead of schedule, so even the usual checkpoint contacts weren’t necessary. I would say she had less contact with her teachers than is typical.</p>
<p>That particular online school does assign a college counselor who checked in regularly with both DD and me all year. She really worked with me to help DD understand what she needed to keep in place for later college applications. And, even after DD took the ‘gap’ year off, this college counselor willingly took on all the regular duties for college applications even though DD was no longer enrolled in the online school.</p>
<p>DD was convinced she would not attend college directly from high school–and as she had graduated a year early, we used what would have been her senior year as a gap year. I did insist that she apply to college anyway to keep options open, which she did, although she insisted she’d defer any acceptances. She applied to two BFA programs for dance and, if I remember, about four non-dance programs, all top-tier schools for which she had the grades, etc. Some more selective than others, but within reason.</p>
<p>Well, imagine my surprise when at spring break she casually mentioned that she’d decided to matriculate into one of the BFA programs to which she had been accepted. Her reasoning was very thoughtful and mature.</p>
<p>I will say both I and her college counselor were surprised that she did not get accepted into any of the non-dance programs. I had expected her not to get all, but I had thought, as had the college counselor, that she’d have a couple to choose from. </p>
<p>Now as I go through this with our second daughter with with her high school’s college counselor that has the advantage of knowing this one’s background, personality, and work ethic, I think DD was rather handicapped in not having had an opportunity to build some strong teacher recommendation bonds, college counselor bond, and by my inexperience in knowing how best to help her ‘package’ and highlight her strengths. At the time, I thought the common application left her sounding quite bland and undefined, but I didn’t know how to help her make herself more definitive.</p>
<p>The second child is more motivated to take college applications seriously, so with lessons learned via DD’s process, I have been more pro-active and inquiring about the process when we visit colleges and attend info sessions. As it is, I’m concerned about second child’s teacher recommendations (again, other than a single class each year, none of the teachers really knows her because she is heavily involved in a club sport that leaves little time for school extra-curriculars) and her actual guidance counselor (who doesn’t seem very interested). We are hoping the college counselor, who does know her, will be able to help shore up where needed. That and an athletic recruiting tip to go along with her high academics.</p>
<p>So, to the extent your DD has those strong teacher relationships (which my DD last had in middle school), make it a priority to keep those ties. Also, the more connection she can retain to her high school guidance counselors, the better she’ll be served when it comes time to apply for college.</p>