<p>So I get my roommate information tomorrow morning and I'm really anxious, and crossing my finger he seems cool. Now after reading a lot of posts here about "my roommate isn't responding to me on fb", "I don't think my roommate likes me", etc. I don't want to come across to my future roommate as some creepy desperate weirdo. That being said, I will look him up on fb to try and get a feel for him, but here's my question... should I add him? or wait for him to add me? Should I text him or should I wait for him? And if I do either or, apart from saying "hey, I'm your roommate" what other things can I talk about? or just leave it at that?</p>
<p>…freshman woes.</p>
<p>Just add him on Facebook. I wouldn’t say text them just yet. Idk, talk to this person like they’re a normal human being. You act like you’ve never made friends before.</p>
<p>It’s not that I’m scared its just that I’ve seen too many posts on here when ppl are worried that their roommate doesnt like them because they went the extra mile to get to know them and came off as kind of needy. I want to make sure that doesnt happen to me.</p>
<p>Listen, adding people on Facebook is a great way to get a temperature reading of the person. People I barely know add me from school and it’s fine. People are social creatures. They’re going to be your roommate for however long and will EXPECT you to send them a friend request. I’d say maybe hold off on a conversation for a day or two after adding them and then chat them up. Be brief, don’t use lots of silly emoticons, ask them what they’ll be bringing and whatnot. </p>
<p>Gotta coordinate. Don’t bombard them with messages constantly. You’ll obviously see them in person and have PLENTY of time to start chatting then. I’d say get the important stuff out of the way first.</p>
<p>Should the first convo just be about what we’re bringing? After a brief introduction?</p>
<p>Yeah, I’d say so. Ask them the usual questions like “What’s your major?”, “What classes are you taking?”</p>
<p>And definitely get all of what you’re bringing out of the way. You don’t want to show up to school and end up having two fridges, two tv’s, two microwaves, etc…</p>
<p>Nothing crazy. If they want to talk about more or whatever, talk. If you’ve pretty much got it settled and can’t find anything to talk about further, move on and talk to them another time. You just gotta make sure you get along. Your roommate doesn’t necessarily have to be your best friend through college.</p>
<p>Just add him with a message that says “hey, I think we’re roommates”. </p>
<p>Other than that, follow Cal’s advice.</p>
<p>Or you never know, he may message you first but just in case he doesn’t just add him on facebook and say “Hey, looks like we’re roommate. How’s it going” or something along the lines of that. It may seem awkward at first but its only a facebook chat so treat it as really laid back. It would be terrible to have two of everything…</p>
<p>just realize that your roomie feels just as awkward and unsure as you do</p>