Hello, I’m just here to talk about some issues I have with my parents, I hope I can get some advice on what to do.
I am currently a 19 year old college student and I live home with my parents. My mother is the main breadwinner of the family; there are a total of 5 people in the house (grandma, dad, mom, 2 year old sister, and me).
I’ve been living in this country for about 8 years now. I came here for better educational opportunities and lived with my mom ever since I was 12, so her and I haven’t really gotten to know each other that much since she missed most of my developmental ages. Even to this day, my mom and I don’t really get along, as I feel her and I have different views on many aspects of life.
I still love my mom with all of my heart and I appreciate everything she has done to bring me to this country and give me a better life. My mom also brought my dad to this country. Him and I don’t get along as well, especially as I got older (I became more aware of his infidelity). My parents still treat me like a child and I will explain why.
One example of my dad treating me like a child is when I say something after he tells me to do things around the house. He proclaims, “DON’T TALK BACK TO ME, A GOOD CHILD DOESN’T TALK BACK TO HER PARENTS!!” I’m not a child, I’m 19 and I can voice my opinions, whether he likes them or not, that’s his issue (I’m far from disrespectful when I talk to him). My dad doesn’t like it when people tell him the truth and he has anger issues; he lashes out at any of us if things don’t go his way. I feel like, since he is the only man in the house, one way to show his authority is by being loud and angry. He even has decided that he will choose who I will marry, as if I’m incapable of doing such by myself. I just want him to know that I am not a child anymore.
I’ve been working ever since I turned 16 years old. My mom opened a joint bank account with me to keep my money there. I would keep my card at the beginning and spend my money, but that is when everything started. My mom would check my account EVERY SECOND of the day and she would print out every purchase I made with my card and where I spent my money.