Hi, how can I kindly tell my parents that I respect their wishes but I would rather not have them control everything that I do? I’m expected to study all day, and my mom just told me (while I was filling out a form for a guidance counselor recommendation) that I was wasting time and I needed to study even though I was doing that the whole day. I can’t do anything (paint/draw, fool around on the guitar, don’t even get me started about Netflix and phone usage they have my social media passwords and I don’t) without asking. I know they’re doing it with good intentions, but I really feel that it is stifling my creativity and individuality because I literally am not allowed to do anything besides schoolwork (and the occasional family movie night). I can accomplish things on my own will, but I don’t think my parents think that. I cannot focus for that long on schoolwork +ACT for the whole day. Also, I’m Asian, so getting the message across may not be that easy.
Also don’t get me wrong, they still let me go to parties and see my friends (birthday parties, of course) but it’s just the day to day drag that I feel like I have my arms tied to my chair. I do everything that is considered “wasting time” when they aren’t at home, and I haven’t been able to because of quarantine LOL. I love my parents but they can be a handful.