<p>OP–I too have a son with Crohn’s–diagnosed at age 12 and now just finishing up his Freshman year at a school about 2 hours away. It took some time to find the right combination of medicines that worked best for him…he had some ups and downs the first year or two but functioned throughout. Since then, he’s been doing wonderfully well. He takes one ton of a lot of pills, but they are working for him, and he is living his life.</p>
<p>You’ve already received great advice on this thread, but I thought I’d reiterate the keys that have been true for us.</p>
<p>1) Find a medical team with whom you’re comfortable even if you have to travel to get to them. Not all GI doctors specialize in IBD…it’s best if you find one who does. Sounds like you are working through that now.</p>
<p>2) Register with the College Disabilities office so that your son can get whatever assistance he needs.</p>
<p>3) Educate yourself on insurance issues. Sounds like that hasn’t been an issue so far, and that’s good. Be sure to understand the future potential issues as your son moves toward being financially independent to make sure he’s always able to get insurance.</p>
<p>4) Let your son decide how he’s going to live his life and what he wants to do, and then support him. </p>
<p>Some days, I think point #4 is the hardest. Even with my son being diagnosed at a young age I had to learn to let him deal with everything the way he wanted to deal with it. Of course, he was young so I took responsibilty for his medical treatments, but I also tried to get him to deal with it the way that I personally wanted to work through it (e.g. get support, help with fund-raising, etc.) Over time I had to learn to accept that he had his own way of wanting to deal with it, and his way was to get on with his life and do all the normal things he wanted to do. It’s far, far better for kids to accept/manage/move-on than to have the disease define them. Net, if he wants to go back for his Internship and wants to return to College in the Fall, applaud his determination and help him with whatever help he needs in whatever way you can help. </p>
<p>Both the patients and the family go through a grieving process when faced with a chronic disease diagnosis. Teens have hopes/dreams for themselves. Parents have hopes/dreams for their children. Nobody has a chronic illness in their future vision. It takes time to adjust and deal and come out the other side. I will say that while I still wish my son didn’t have Crohn’s, for a number of reasons, it has broadened his horizons. Further I think he has a great appreciation for life and has become a far more resilient person.</p>
<p>Let your son’s positive attitude drive him forward. Help him in learning how to manage his disease, but let him keep the focus on living his life.</p>