<p>I have found it helpful to let my daughter deal directly with her Dad. He always says he will do the NCC statement, then "forgets". I also try to get the college financial aid people to deal with him directly -- I give them his phone number and address. I just figure that its best to remove me - the ex-wife - and any emotions related to me from the picture as much as possible -- so he doesn't look at his purposeful delay as being a way of punishing me. He loves our daughter (I hope!) - so its going to be harder for him to act like a jerk if she is the one calling. </p>
<p>This might not work with a parent who is adamant about protecting their own "privacy" and refusing to fill out financial forms. But if its just a matter of delay or lack of willing cooperation, this approach might work better than anything that requires the parent to communicate directly with his or her ex spouse.</p>