<p>wake mainly because i have two good friends from high school already there, and it is a conservative school much like Furman. I had some friends go to Furman as well and both are very similar. Wake has a bigger sports program which I want to retain... i love college sports. wake is in the same city i grew up in for 8 years, so there is a sense of familiarity to it. its not that i still haven't fit in at UNC. i may have three or so good guys by day but at night they get out of control. they like me, but i am having a hard time accepting what they do and am not so sure i could be proud to call them friends. that is my dilemma. i have had horrible luck here. everyone else tells me how wonderful UNC is .. either they are lying or i am just in bad shape. </p>
<p>the guys i've met have gotten to the point where they want to get a house together next year, but that also includes inviting the drug dealer to live with us. i declined as i refuse to live with someone who could potentially get us all in trouble. it simply isn't worth it.</p>
<p>ahduke - your dilemma is becoming a little more clear to me. I think. </p>
<p>My d ran into what you describe in high school. She was a cheerleader and all the cheerleaders hung around with the athletes in what they liked to think was the 'A' list crowd. Unfortunately, that crowd, a very VERY small percentage of our high school, were a bunch of hard core partiers. By day, at school and school events she was fine....but outside the school structure, she did not fit in with this fast crowd. She quickly learned there were many valuable friendships to be found outside this so-called A-list. (She also found that these 'A-list' kids were really 'legends in their own mind'....that though they thought they were elite and envied by all, they really were quite invisible to most of the rest of the student body...except during Monday morning gossip sessions about 'who' got into 'what' trouble over the weekend....lol!)</p>
<p>I think the source of your problem is perhaps you are unwittingly limiting yourself to friendships with those you think you 'ought' to be with and letting opportunities to connect with really decent, neat kids pass you by.</p>
<p>Excellent point and I think you may have nailed it....many of the really great, decent kids are usually truly the more self-assured and are not seeking the attention that the A listers really crave, in fact it's just the opposite.</p>
<p>I was thinking about this the other day; if ahduke takes a little time he can go to the Robertson website and Morehead website and identify who the freshman are and then perhaps try to seek them out through the school directory. He isn't going to find "drug addicts" in that circle and will probably find individuals who are very welcoming. These are certainly not the only places to find good kids at UNC, but are two places that would be more easily identifiable. I still believe that a campus ministry would also be a great place to find the kind of kids he is looking for and he glossed over both my previous suggestions.</p>
<p>Unfortunately for him, he is saddled with living in Granville Towers which has greatly and sadly colored his experience and beliefs about UNC. I hope that his experience there gets bookmarked on CC for anyone considering it for next year.</p>
<p>Prehaps instead of putting Granville Towers down because that probably goes on campus as well. He can either turn these people in or he can ask to be moved to another floor or maybe another building at Granville. Maybe he picked the building that is known for partying at Granville, if so there are rooms he can be moved to. My daughter lives at Granville and has had no problems at all. She is on a all female floor that is very quiet. I never have heard anything on that flloor and I have been there quiet a few times for games and other things. The floors do have RA's that you can talk to about this problem, there is no reason to put up with illegal activity and I do feel for you. These people should have choosen to live off campus if that is what they want to do. You have a right to live in a drug-free room. RA's can handle it quietly without the guys knowing who reported them. I do not and never will feel sorry for someone doing drugs - they made the choice to do something illegally now live with it.</p>
<p>alcook - I don't think anyone is putting Granville Towers down or trying to imply it is some sort of drug den. But it is a fact living in Granville can be very difficult for out-of-state students who are alone and trying to forge new friendships. That is all eadad alluded.</p>
<p>you're probably right, eadad .. the problem is that finding those that arent drug addicts and alcoholics is very difficult if you don't know where to look. i was hoping that classes would help me meet these people, but the 400 person lectures i am currently in have no interaction. right now i have a small group i can eat dinner and lunch with and then watch drink a night, hoping that my roommate won't go out and smoke pot and then come in late to wake me up. that i do not enjoy. i guess its no coincidence then that everyone i've met through the pot dealer has been potheads themselves. unfortunately none of these people i would be proud to call my friend, and if my other friends back home knew about them and thought i was friends with them, they'd likely disown me. </p>
<p>as for living in a drug free room, as of now i have been very vocal about brining any kind of illegal substance into the room, and i promised my roommate i would take action if he did bring anything in there. so far he has respected that. my RA loves me, so talking to her would be no problem. the only thing about that is that i have been the only staunch anti-drug person to be outspoken, so when the 6-7 people on the hall get reprimanded (if) then they'll know who it was. i hate my roommate has gotten into it because he's got a great, highly respected family and i know they'd kill him if they knew who he was hanging around with. i hate i care so much ..</p>
<p>ahduke99....why don't you just transfer to a smaller more conservative college? You sound miserable and maybe Carolina just isn't the place for you. I'm not going to comment on the drug scene there since I know nothing about it firsthand, but even the small private Christian based colleges I have visited say they take drug use and underage drinking seriously, which tells me that there are drugs and alcohol on most every college campus inlcuding theirs. All you can hope for is that when it is brought to the attention of the administration and/or RA's, they will investigate it because it is illegal and the college has to protect their reputation. But.....in this day and age even if you never encounter drugs or alcohol in college, you will no doubt be faced with it sometime in your life in the workplace or amongst people you will meet in the future. This might be a good time to toughen up and as long as you know where you stand on this issue that is what truly matters. Some people have to learn the hard way and they mature at a much slower rate but don't let that keep you from pursuing your dreams for a higher education no matter what college you end up at.</p>
<p>I've been following this thread and, honestly, the OP sounds very winey. This is your opportunity to deal with the real world in a mature way. Maybe you're just not ready for the independance of university life. There are so many obvious solutions to your "predicament" but every suggestion seems to fall on deaf ears.</p>
<p>You could always surrender and go back home and not have to deal with the mean and dirty real world or you could get on with it. So many people would trade places with you in a New York second.</p>
<p>I'm not surrendering to no one. Ive never quit a anything. I am trying to transfer to wake forest as quick as I can. Its ridicules to tell me I just have to learn to live with drug users. They can do it, but when someone begins trying to advertise their business to be then thats when I draw the line. I can deal with alcohol. I was around it in high school just like I am here. Its the drugs I do not tolerate. if someone wants to trade places and live whee I am, I hope they can in a very short time. Its a great school, I'm just mixed with the wrong crowd in the wrong place.</p>
<p>I'm an NCSSM grad and I wouldn't exactly say there's preference towards us at all. I mean, there are a ton of NCSSMers here but since the catastrophe of admissions last year, it's fairly safe to say, UNC is sick of Science and Mathers thinking they're accepted by default. You have to work for your scores and EC's just like anyone else to get accepted here.</p>
<p>No one is 'in' just because NCSSM is a competitive school and we were getting told that the reason they're cutting down on easy admissions for NCSSM kids is because we're becoming something of a feeder school. I don't know, I would imagine any university considered a Public Ivy wouldn't want students thinking they don't even have to try for admission just because of the high school they got to. NCSSM isn't exactly Groton or Exeter so yeah, just my take on it.</p>
<p>This is a question for the OP, Swim4China, about dorms. I was wondering what the housing process is like, especially the amount of control a person gets over where he or she wants to live. </p>
<p>Anyone else is welcome to post back as well, I'm curious. I'll probably end up rooming with someone I know because of a chronic health problem and hope to end up in one of the ritzier dorms.</p>
<p>Just a note: if you have allergies please make a note of it on housing application so hopefully you will get a air-conditioned room. I am not sure if it requires something from your doctor or not.</p>