<p>Don't make decisions based on prestige. The differences are so small, and anyway it really doesn't matter.</p>
<p>In the interest of full disclosure, I was admitted to Dartmouth but waitlisted at Swarthmore. I won't waste my breath explaining that Swarthmore is an excellent school (I'm sure interesteddad will do an admirable job of that :)), but maybe I can help calm some of your fears about Dartmouth.</p>
<p>First, has your daughter visitied both schools? I had some of the same concerns about the size (coming from a high school with just over 200 students) and party atmosphere, but going to Dimensions convinced me that Dartmouth was the right school for me. I'm a soft-spoken, "intellectual," Swedish vegan with interests ranging from French and creative writing to linguistics and neuroscience, and I had less trouble fitting in than I did at my oh-so-worldly international high school -- the students I met at Dimensions were some of the most fun, interesting, diverse, unassuming-but-really-ridiculously intelligent people I've met in my life. You mentioned friendliness; I think you'd be hard-pressed to find a friendlier, more welcoming school than Dartmouth, but of course I am biased. ;)</p>
<p>Things I did at Dartmouth that did not involve beer:
* Sitting in the sun with friends talking about... life, or something
* Playing frisbee (badly, never having played before) on the Green
* Performing a dreadful rendition of Nelly's "Hot in Herre" at the GSA's gay karaoke bar night (and I have terrible stage fright!)
* Hanging out in a common room having "deep" conversations that deteriorated into a huge pillow fight
* Attending a performance by an "Illusionist/Mind Reader" (and enjoyed myself immensely in spite of my skepticism)
* Seeing an improv comedy performance (first time for me)
* Going for an 11:30 pizza run in "downtown" Hanover
* Squeezing seven people into a three-person couch to watch a midnight showing of Little Miss Sunshine
* Walking around campus late at night without a sweater because none of us wanted to go to sleep our last night there
* Many more things that I'm forgetting</p>
<p>Of course there were frat parties during this, but we really didn't notice much disruption, to be honest. Most if not all of the fraternities are located in the same general area, and if your daughter doesn't want to be exposed to that type of social life, she could just avoid going to that part of campus on a Friday night. During my conversations with other prospective students on CC, Facebook, and at Dimensions, the party atmosphere has been the concern brought up most frequently -- and if that many students are choosing Dartmouth for everything else that the school offers in spite of the party scene, I don't think your daughter will feel alienated. Definitely PM sybbie719 or cangel if you'd like to know more; both have daughters at Dartmouth and could give you the perspective that I can't (after all, what do I know? I'm only a pre-frosh).</p>
<p>As for size and personal attention, I was very impressed with the classes I attended during Dimensions: Youth and Society (sociology), Words (linguistics) -- my favorite!, Anthropology of Religion (er, anthropology), and War and Peace in the 20th Century (history). I would never have chosen a history class if it hadn't been for some friends who wanted to see this one, but the professor (who had previously taught at Yale but came to Dartmouth because he hated New Haven) brought such insight and enthusiasm to the topic that even I was captivated. The history and anthropology classes were the largest, around 50 students, but both professors were very skilled lecturers and were able to involve the students in spite of the size of the class. There were no TAs that I could see. The linguistics class was an upper-level class where prospies outnumbered actual students(!). I was actually surprised and impressed by the amount of professor-student interaction in both large and small classes, and I come from a high school where my largest class has 12 students (my smallest has three).</p>
<p>I won't tell your daughter where to go, because that is a decision only she can make. I'm going to Dartmouth and couldn't be happier, despite being in many ways the complete opposite of the beer-drinking frat boy stereotype (I do love skiing, though), but either way she really can't go wrong. Good luck! :)</p>