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um...what if your parents don't allow you to date?
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Also, it's a personal choice. I've never had a boyfriend and I don't want one at this point in time.
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<p>Then umm.............don't date?</p>
<p>um...............how about you read IloveBrown's posts because I responded to them???????????</p>
<p>19382:<em>There's a difference between dating someone and being in a terrible relationship. But I guess you wouldn't know that.</em></p>
<p>19382:_
Say you never make it to interview day. Your life would have sucked because your whole life would revolve around something that MIGHT have happened in the future. That's a sick way to live._</p>
<p>There's a difference between choosing not to date and being a failure at life.</p>
<p>Turnabout is fair play, but I'll decline giving a bit of ad hominem like the one you threw in at the end of your response.</p>
<p>In a nutshell, if you want to date and you know that you will be able to handle a relationship and school, then by all means go ahead.</p>
<p>If you aren't sure whether you can handle school and dating, then wait until you get into the swing of the things and then date.</p>
<p>You aren't going to <em>die</em> and your gpa won't suffer if you do both, just make sure that you balance the two. And you're not going to <em>die</em> if you don't date your freshman year. </p>
<p>It's that simple.</p>
<p>Agreed smurfette 2692, look:</p>
<p>From the original poster (im<em>not</em>a_girl): "is this a good idea? i'm worried that i might get too involved, break up at the end of the year and not have any close friends because of the amount of time and commitment invested in the gf. not to mention i'm still adjusting to college life."</p>
<p>And smurfette2692 wrote: "If you aren't sure whether you can handle school and dating, then wait until you get into the swing of the things and then date."</p>
<p>The choice is clear, no?</p>
<p>Here's what I gotta say: Just have random hookups...it may be awkward but it is fun...haha. Freshman year is your year to experiment...</p>
<p><em>Here's what I gotta say: Just have random hookups...it may be awkward but it is fun...haha. Freshman year is your year to experiment...</em></p>
<p>Yeah, loads of fun.</p>
<p>Random hookups?? No, no no no no.</p>
<p>Or you could just be anothing boring, straight-flying, conservative, never-take-risks, dateless automaton that studies its enginnering book every day, reviewing topics hundreds of thousands of other students have also committed to memory. Next up on your biography, we can look at how you attempted to pad your resume to differentiate yourself from boring bastard B and then get a job being a corporate slave for the rest of your life. Your only comforts are the ocassional token raise, a new big official-sounding title every so often like Executive Analyst of Corporate Software Management (translation: keyboard jockey), and a slightly bigger cubicle-prison. When you take a step back and view the pathetic garbage heap that is your life, it's actually quite amusing to see the hamster (you) running in its wheel.</p>
<p>Think about it: the only reason you want a high gpa is to essentially prove to others that you are "motivated," "intelligent," or "can get the job done." What's a matter, you're worried or insecure that you won't come across as such on the job? You need a piece of paper to remind you and others that you are "motivated" or "smart"? Not to mention, your ****ing away 11% of your life for the sole purpose of PROVING $#!& TO OTHERS! Not for yourself, or even people you know for chrissake! I think if I died and went to hell, I'd be in your shoes buddy.</p>
<p>Were those flames directed at me, peter_parker, for suggesting that random sex parties can (gasp!) have consequences? You probably don't know what STDs are, and that many of them are lifelong diseases with devastating consequences (public school sex ed teachers tend to gloss over these things while trying to teach guys and girls how to put condoms on various household objects). And do I even need to mention AIDS (again, another topic that Unplanned Parenthood would rather you NOT know about)?</p>
<p>Nice ad hominem attacks, by the way, its a good strategy to fall back on when you're backed in a corner with no civil replies to make.</p>
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Just have random hookups...it may be awkward but it is fun...haha.
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<p>You don't have to go that far - making out with girls on Saturday nights is fun nontheless.</p>
<p>I don't understand why people like to have random hookups and making out with people on Saturday nights. It seems like people don't have any shame whatsoever. </p>
<p>I'm not telling you what to do, since you're in charge of your own life and you are mature enough to handle the consequences, but I find it sad that people don't take the issue of relationships seriously. The purpose of dating is to find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with and it seems like many people on this board just "like to have fun" (i.e. messing around). Maybe that's why so many young people have STD's and unwanted pregnancies.</p>
<p>Well, making out IS fun... I can see why people would want to do it alot. But I'd never do it with some random person I barely knew, you don't know how nasty a person is then.</p>
<p>I'm not suggesting to be a whore or prostitute, nor to be 'loose,' display affection in public, or have no standards. Far from it. I'm saying there's more to college than your g.p.a., aka an abstract, imaginary number. There's more to life. Having a girlfriend, or less, simply a date or conversation isn't going to do jack to your career, in fact it will probably motivate you and improve your life. It will probably give you more self-esteem and confidence to get the job done as well.</p>
<p>Ad hominem attacks? LOL What did you just come back from a philosophy class on Socrates or something and now you're trying to impress me with your big words? ROFL.</p>
<p>Btw my arguments were not ad hominem attacks, buddy. I said you should date because otherwise your life will blow. Not 'your life blows, so you're not credible, so you're wrong.' But even if they were ad hominem, I don't need to be told I'm attempting to bash someone's credibility every time I do it. Btw, who here is sick of hearing the phrase 'ad hominem' attacks on loads of threads around here? Search the forum for 'ad hominem' and you'll find plenty of results. And its always in the same context:</p>
<p>Nerd: Stop using ad hominem attacks, they're not valid!!!! Be impressed by by my large, foreign word!!! I just came back from philsophy class, and now I want to feel important by using it!!!!! I'm aware that most of the high school students on this board probably don't know what it means, and my language would be more effective saying 'stop attacking my character,' but I'm a pretensious, think-I'm-smart a-hole!! Isn't it funny how I write like a fourth grader but then use the word ad hominem out of nowhere??</p>
<p>Agree to disagree. You can get your 4.0 without dating, and I'll get mine with dating. To each his own.</p>
<p>what are ad hominems btw? I do keep seeing this phrase in numerous threads.</p>
<p>Just go out as friends (including as intimate friends, if appropriate). Don't think in terms of developing a serious, monogomous commitment, unless you really do meet your soulmate. </p>
<p>College is a time to meet and experience new people and things. </p>
<p>!!! Just enjoy college life !!!</p>
<p>An ad hominem argument involves replying to an argument or assertion by attacking the person presenting the argument rather the argument itself. Basically you attack the messenger, not the message. This is a logical fallacy.</p>
<p>Example:</p>
<p>Jack makes a claim that eating guavas is good for you.</p>
<p>Bob says that Jack is a hypocritical person because he has never eaten guavas so he can't be trusted.</p>
<p>Bob is using an ad hominem attack on Jack not eating them, though he might actually be allergic to them instead of refuting that guava's are good for health.</p>
<p><em>Agree to disagree. You can get your 4.0 without dating, and I'll get mine with dating. To each his own.</em></p>
<p>Wow, pete, maybe you should've said this before your embarassing explosion a few posts up, <em>snerk</em> it certainly wasn't a pretty sight to see. </p>
<p><em>I'm saying there's more to college than your g.p.a., aka an abstract, imaginary number. There's more to life. Having a girlfriend, or less, simply a date or conversation isn't going to do jack to your career, in fact it will probably motivate you and improve your life. It will probably give you more self-esteem and confidence to get the job done as well.</em></p>
<p>It took me all of 1 minute to find a post of mine in this same topic where I've said something to the contrary, but I suppose I'd be wasting my time reposting them here since you'd just call me another name (maybe 'gay'! I hear that's a good one to use!), right petes?</p>
<p>And BTW, what do you have against the Latin language? If I were to accuse you of using an ad hom---er, insult against me in your last post, you'd probably just vehemently deny it so I shouldn't bother with doing that either...</p>
<p>My roomate just got a girlfriend and apparently he stopped talking to the other guys on our floor and spends all his time with his gf.</p>
<p>Last night, he and the girl slept in our room and they were up until 8AM. (I know this because they kept me awake with their chatter.) And guess what? He had a major exam the following morning. (And I had an exam too, so I guess i'm kind of ****ed, but thats another story.)</p>
<p>^that's just because he can't balance things. he's smart. haha.</p>